07-11-2012, 01:02 PM
Join Date: Jun 2012
| | Re: Discussing Separation Agreement That I DO NOT WANT
You can lead a horse to water, but you can't make him drink. Unless he wants to work on the marriage, I would not spend more time trying to get him to do something he does not want to do. I would prepare myself for the next step of the divorce process, as much as it hurts.
One thing I learned in my divorce is that you rarely get the closure you need or a good explaination. I wouldn't spend the time looking for another woman either, it will only build more resentment and anger in you.
Instead, take that energy and go see a therapist to work on you. Make yourself a better person, regardless of what your ex does. You may never get the answers you want, but you can live your life the way you want and feel good about it.
As for the settlement, treat it like a business transaction. Go in with a list of what you want and what you are willing to barter / do without. Get the deal in writing and get out of there. Don't spend time on idle chit chat or trying to get him to come back, just cool and business like. Save your emotions till you get home, then you can let it out. A little cold shoulder might make him think a little about what he is losing.
Last edited by C3156; 07-11-2012 at 01:08 PM.