Thank you for offering to support me until I was able to find a good job to get on my feet and support myself.
Thank you for helping me work out a "dog support arrangement" to continue paying half the dogs' expenses after the divorce. They're your puppies too and I know you love them. They can't wait to come spend time with you at your new place.
Thank you for being my best friend.
Even though it didn't work out between us romantically and sexually, you are a human being of the highest caliber and I will always like and respect you.
I am disappointed that you loved me enough to marry me, and stay with me during the 2 years of the recurrence of my alcoholism (which you know I profoundly regret and am deeply remorseful for), but not enough to stay with me when I finally re-committed to my recovery, am getting better and needed you the most. I am disappointed that you left me and broke my heart. I am sad that the man who was so sure we were soul mates does not want to try harder to save the marriage, and cares so little for upholding our our marriage vows. I know that I hurt you, but am sick and tired of your abandonment rejection, distancing and indecision. I am doing my best to make amends, forgive myself, and carry on with building a happier, healthier life. But I miss you every day, and long for you to have a change of heart and give us another chance. I am scared that there will never be another man I could ever love as much as I have loved and still love you.
You say you tried to work on things. By "work on things" I assume you mean withdrawing emotionally, keeping a strangle hold on resentment, and having an EA with that looser oompa loompa.
Congratulations. You picked just the right person to support you when you were down, believe in your talents, understand your background, and give you chance after chance when you had multiple EAs and used my deepest fears and weaknesses of which I was most ashamed to keep me under your thumb. And now that you got to the point where you are sure you have other women wanting you, financial independence (thanks to the government and taxpayers), a free education (ditto) and others who will feel sorry for you, you can feel free to be even worse than the ill, abusive mother from whom you claimed to rescue me. You can break even the extra promises I asked you to make about never divorcing until we tried every last method of working things out -- by never even trying ONE method. Thank you for taking away my good memories by changing history to make everything bad. Thank you for making me feel tremendously guilty for picking you to be the father of my children. Thank you for leaving me as you found me -- not trusting that I would ever find someone who would truly love me for me, even when I screw up, or if I get sick or when the chips are down. Too bad there were 15 years of...whatever...between then and now. Thank you for not even allowing me to regret knowing you, because that would mean I wouldn't have my son, the only truly undeniable good thing from our relationship.
A few words of advice: For your next 'true love(s),' 'best friend(s)', 'bride(s),' 'lifelong partner(s),' please do not say 'I love the best of you and the rest of you.' Do not play mushy songs about growing old together while you hold her as she cries, thinking you mean it. Just don't. Tell them all the truth. They are the flavor of the month. You will trade their feelings for the fleeting emotional attachment of someone who will sell you out when you hit a crisis, but you won't learn from it and will do it again. You will blame them for it, too. You do not believe in all the facets of love, only the fun part early on. You don't believe in honoring others' relationships, as you poached your current girlfriend from the man she was living with, supposedly a friend of yours. That you WILL get what you want, no matter what it takes.
That you lie as easily as breathing. That you are a truly disordered human being and you scare me because you either don't realize it, or you do and deny it or don't care.
And in the end, you will walk away with your freedom, your health, your degree, half of my retirement, and other material goods. I will maybe qualify for food stamps, but probably not.
Well since you asked and im really pissed at him right now:
1) you have a small d!ck ( always wanted to say that but could never be that mean)
2) you were boring in bed, i asked you to spice it up and you gave me nothing
3) you are a selfish, immature, idiot, who cant manage money or anything else to save his life. oh and you cant even keep a f*cking job.
You know what you did me a favor cheating on me and wanting a divorce, I am getting rid of having to take care of you like your mommy for the rest of my life. This allows me to go out and find a real man, and even if i end up being alone for the rest of my life its still better than having to walk on eggshells trying to not get you upset, while taking care of everything else. Enjoy your new life a$$hole- its what you asked for.
This is EXACTLY what I would say to my ex. Plus, sex with you was ****, you were always selfish and never cared if I got off. You ran off with our car, all the cash, haven't paid one bill and have ignored my communication and even your own parents ever since because you are a small, empty shell of a person who isn't worth the sh*t on the bottom of my shoes. You will always be unhappy. You will never be a real husband or have a family of your own. I dodged a bullet. Motherf***er. Posted via Mobile Device
yay, so theraputic! yes i do still love him, unfortunately. but i'm angry and typing this here is a release, if i text him these things i just look crazy!
"I have no desire for competition for our daughter's affection. We both love her very much, and there is no reason why we can't amicably share her.
I truly hope you find happiness in your life. I have found a great deal of happiness, and I do not wish to rub it in your face. I'm enjoying my freedom, and I'm enjoying my new relationship. I hope you experience the same. If you are happy, then I am happy for you.
Please stop playing games. You attempt to use our daughter as a means of controlling me, and to keep me under your thumb. I find it immature and unnecessary. And please stop coming around me dressed up in sexy clothes. It is comically transparent what you are trying to do and it only serves to make you look foolish. I no longer want you; please accept it gracefully.
I hope for our daughter's sake we can be civil, although I will never want to be friends with you. There is too much resentment over everything that's happened for me to ever trust you again.
And please, for your sake and for our child's, seek counseling." Posted via Mobile Device
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Re: What do you want to REALLY tell your ex? 
Hilarious!
