04-20-2009, 07:49 AM
Join Date: Jan 2009
| | Looking for a little advice
My wife moved out two weeks ago with both of us understanding our life had to change if there was ever a chance of us getting back together, after she cheated. It was a very slim chance in my book but there was a part of me that was hoping she would change and be what i wanted her to be...(we have been separated for 2 1/2 months but she just got her own place)..She acted to me like she had changed during the first 2 months but her being on her own would be the test for me...I wanted a total transformation, proof that me and the kids were the most important thing to her....(she says it but i don't beleive it)......So this was her first weekend alone, in total freedom.....She goes out fri nite to a local bar till 12 and saturday night till 230am......I honestly didn't think i would care, but it tore me up.... I know how she is and i know how she acts with alcohol in her.....Who knows what she did, my mind can only imagine.... Why in the hell would she do this....I usually talk to her a couple times a day and we get along, she always seems cheery.....To make this story short, i talked to her yesterday and ask her why she did it, and her response was i just went out, i wont do it again, and that i have no idea what it feels like not to be wanted......(whatever)...So when i took the kids back at 6 yesterday, i told her i couldn't handle being torn apart again(with some new guy), my heart can't take it.....I have had enough and told her not to contact me anymore, i wanted to get over her....txt me if she needed to ask me something and i would do the same.....kids call anytime, and i will let her know when im calling by txtn her......She broke down saying i can't do that, is this it for good are you giving up on us for good.....Is stopping almost all communication with her the right thing to do, i want to get over this.......