ElGirl, I admire your tenacity to educate yourself and doing your reseach. The thing that gets me is that when I bring this matter up to certain people (two). They would say to me that I shouldn't press charges because it would only look like I still had a thing for him. That really makes me mad to hear! Especially after all me and my sons (now grown) endored! Be that as it may, I have a feeling that this woman does know (at least by now) that he is still married. But ElGirl, it's not about how he feels or what she knows. It's about riding myself of what I can only describe as a Cancer.
I do not think that trying to get charges pressed against him for bigamy show that you have a thing for him. It could mean that. Or it could mean that you are angered that he went off and married someone before he divorced you.
The response to people who say this is that he is using community assets (your money) for his new life… his new house, his new everything.
To me it also shows a total lack of respect for his marriage to you and the law.
An attorney once asked me and I'm paraphrasing.
How long ago did an attorney say this? The way you said it, it sounds like it was a long time ago. But he only married her recently. Has he married other women while married to you as well?
"If he is in total agreement to this divorce. Why would I press charges of bigamy before the divorce is final. Something that might cause him to retaliate in some way, changing a simple divorce into something ugly?"
He also said.
"I know if someone were to press charges against me. There is no way I would be so nice to not want to get even."
So this brings me back to my orginal question. Can I press charges after, I divorce him? Either way the crime still exist, that doesn't change. Either way, I need to put on my 'big girl panties'. That a prozac if I have to and get this whole thing none and out of my life.
Find a different attorney.
Yes it might make him less cooperative. But it also might make him more cooperative. Do you thinkt hat that the divorce that you filed before was equitable? If not, putting in your divorce that he has already remarried could get you a way to make him more agreeable to cooperate with you.
IMHO, out of respect for yourself and your children you do not let this slide. That’s just me.
Also, if people do not stand up to protect the marriage laws, then they mean nothing.
Further, the wife in his bigamist marriage should care a lot about this. Her marriage is not legal. She does not have any of the normal rights of marriage… like community property.
Here’s an article that you might find interesting. Man charged with bigamy thought divorce was final - WKRN, Nashville News, Nashville Weather and Sports
One thing that the article brought up is that while the man claims that he thought the was divorced when he married again.. he hid his current (real) marriage to his wife by not listing it on his marriage certificate. He did mention his first marriage, but not the second and current marriage when he married his third wife. So he knew very well that he was not divorced when he married his 3rd wife.
Get a copy of your husband’s marriage certificate for this bigamous marriage and see if he put down that he is married to you and if he listed a divorce date from you. Fight Bigamy
I would do more searching online to fine out how the state he’s in right now will handle this. If you will share the names of the states both of you are in I’ll do some searching for you after work tonight.
When it comes to legal matters, I’m a big proponent of putting all the info on the table and letting the facts fall where they may. If you don’t do that, it can come to haunt you later. For example his bigamous wife might later sue you claiming that you knew that he married her fraudulently and did not warn her. Thus you were involved a crime with him to defraud her. I don’t know if she could get such a case to court.. but I could see her trying it when she tries to divorce him.. .which might very well happen.