My Wife Left Last Tuesday

Dadwithtwolittlegirls · 08-01-2012, 10:38 AM

I was talking to a friend of mine ( female ) yesterday and she said I should go in and have coffee with her. I'm not attracted to her but I think she is of me.

I told her I'm not interested in dating , I just want a night out.

99% of my friends are married with children and hang out at home on the weekends.

I was laughing to myself and think I should check in at the most expensive restaurant in town.. she would be wondering WTF and where did he get that money.. LOL

Dadwithtwolittlegirls · 08-01-2012, 10:42 AM

How long should I give her before I seek Child Support Payments. In a few weeks I'm gonna have to get my girls ready to go back to school.

I do know the minute I find out she is dating someone I will be cutting off her car insurance and sign the car over to her and she will be on her own for sure.

foreverheartbroken · 08-01-2012, 12:20 PM

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Originally Posted by Sadwithtwolittlegirls

I was laughing to myself and think I should check in at the most expensive restaurant in town.. she would be wondering WTF and where did he get that money.. LOL

LMAO!!

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Originally Posted by Sadwithtwolittlegirls

How long should I give her before I seek Child Support Payments. In a few weeks I'm gonna have to get my girls ready to go back to school.

I do know the minute I find out she is dating someone I will be cutting off her car insurance and sign the car over to her and she will be on her own for sure.

I asked you if you were able to make an appointment with an attorney but you didn't answer.

You need child support NOW. While you're waiting to see an attorney, I think you would go to the family court in your area and submit a court order for child support?

For now you're going to have to ask her for help in supporting her children financially.

keko · 08-01-2012, 12:25 PM

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Originally Posted by Sadwithtwolittlegirls

How long should I give her before I seek Child Support Payments. In a few weeks I'm gonna have to get my girls ready to go back to school.

None. Do it right away and without telling her you're doing it. Will she be notified by mail? Called to court? Or you'll have to ask from her?

I do know the minute I find out she is dating someone I will be cutting off her car insurance and sign the car over to her and she will be on her own for sure.

You need to give her 24 hours to find a new insurance and that you'll be cancelling the current one.

Dadwithtwolittlegirls · 08-01-2012, 12:48 PM

I will be going to see the lawyer tomorrow morning to set up an appointment to discuss where to begin with all of this.

The big thing will be the business.

We are partners but we were going to move around the percentage so that we minimize the taxes. Right now I want to make it 50/50 on the taxes.. she is a partner in the business.. she should pay half the taxes.

She certainly won't like that because I have been running it myself for the past year and a half. Too bad I say..

Dadwithtwolittlegirls · 08-01-2012, 08:46 PM

As I do the laundry and sweep the floor my wife is texting to my daughter sitting here..

Do I read anything into that or is she just trying to keep in touch with her daughter?

keko · 08-01-2012, 09:08 PM

Try not to involve your kids to much into your biz. If you're dying to read the texts, wait until they go to sleep and read it then.

Dadwithtwolittlegirls · 08-01-2012, 09:09 PM

I did read them.. and it was just asking how she's doing.. but now I know she applying for a full time job...

Good .. now she will have more than enough to pay child support and her our car insurance.

keko · 08-01-2012, 09:11 PM

Good, at least she isn't neglecting them too much.

Dadwithtwolittlegirls · 08-01-2012, 09:13 PM

I set my 8 year you with a live account and put all of her moms e-mail addresses in it.. she has been sending messages to her that way..

The oldest one has a phone so they text each other.

I'm glad they are talking.. but I really wish she was here talking to them face to face.

I assume she texts my oldest because she misses her.. That's good i guess..

happyman64 · 08-01-2012, 09:21 PM

Sad,
It is good that she communicates with your girls. That is the least she should do.

Now I want you to communicate with your wife too.

Through your new attorney.

Have her served. Bam!
Request child support. Bam!

Discuss the business, taxes and insurance with your attorney. Discuss the mortgage too.

This is not to punish your wife. This is to show her consequences for her actions.

She wants to abandon the family and walk away from the marriage. Fine. But those actions come with consequences.

Good Luck tomorrow.

HM64
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Dadwithtwolittlegirls · 08-01-2012, 09:22 PM

Thanks.. I can imagine the lawyer will have quite a bit of stuff I will need to do for him to get this ball rolling.

keko · 08-01-2012, 09:25 PM

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Originally Posted by Sadwithtwolittlegirls

Thanks.. I can imagine the lawyer will have quite a bit of stuff I will need to do for him to get this ball rolling.

What are you waiting for?

Dadwithtwolittlegirls · 08-01-2012, 09:26 PM

I will see what he wants when i see him tomorrow. Or he might schedule an appointment. I won't know until I get there.. he has been on vacation

happyman64 · 08-01-2012, 09:29 PM

First step is always the hardest Sad.

And we all know you do not want to do this but this is your first step to taking back control of your wife.

Do not do it to get your wife home. That will not happen. Do it to protect you and your family.

Do it to put some order into your life. Look at it as making a statement to your wife of what is and what is not acceptable to you.....
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