My STBXW and I have been separated since January. D filed in April, and it's moving along nicely. She had an affair after we separated, and to my knowledge is still seeing the OM.
When I found out, I went dark. Been going to counseling, working on myself, yadda yadda. Reconnected with an old almost flame from high school in May, started dating, really into each other, now we're exclusive, and things are going along really well.
Fast forward to two days ago. My girlfriend gets a friend request on Facebook from someone; I'll call her Jane Williams (I made that name up at random). GF has no idea who this person is. She looks at the account details, and sees that Jane Williams is "married" to a person named "Jeff" ("Jeff" is the name of my STBXW's little brother, who I am very close to). "Williams" is the last name of a mutual friend of ours who used to date "Jeff" and works with my STBXW (she is my friend much more than by STBXW's at this point). The FB account is practically brand new. The profile pic is the only pic on the account. The coincidences in names are too hard to ignore.
My GF doesn't accept the request but sends a message back: "Do I know you?" Later that day, the account is GONE. Nowhere to be found. Completely deactivated.
My gut tells me it was my STBXW under a fake account trying to spy on my GF. As part of discovery for her child support suit, I had to cough up my FB wall over a month ago. I blocked my STBXW months ago, which I'm sure is why she asked for it. There was nothing there of value; just pics of me and my kids and random jokes between me and my high school friends.
Since then, I have changed my relationship status to "In a relationship" from "Single." I'm now wondering if STBXW saw that from this possible fake account, found out I'm dating this particular woman through a mutual friend and/or through my daughter (I didn't tell her I was dating, but that I do have a friend named "Lynn" and we email pictures of food back and forth; we both like to cook and so we email pics of our edible creations to each other all the time).
If it was my STBXW, I'm curious as to why she would do this. That's pretty ballsy; to friend request my GF? She's the one who wanted to separate; she's the one who had the affair. Once I found out, I kicked divorce into high gear and moved on and never looked back. What would she possibly have to gain by doing this?