08-09-2012, 06:29 AM
Join Date: Apr 2012
Location: Arlington, VA
| | Re: Need Reinforcement Please
Yes, you are doing the right thing! As much as he has hurt and disresepcted you, you have to have the self-respect to let go of a husband who is not putting value on you and the marriage. Once we are able to truly put value on ourselves and stop "needing" the spouse or anyone else to put value on us, it is amazing how it can chnage things around for the better. The key things is to do it -- start valuing yourslef -- without any attachment to a particular outcome or result. This way, even if it does end in divorce (I am in limbo myself, separated 4 months and not knowing whether and when my husband will file for divorce and become an STBXH), you will not stay stuck in painful thoughts of him and the past, or fears of the future. You will start simply finding ways to enjoy each day as it comes, and make your life as happy as it can be -- with or without him. It may be that in his current condition, it is not in your best interest to get back with him, so trust the Universe, love and respect yourself, and hold your head high. Is this meeting the the lawyer on your own (I hope) or jointly with him?
Hang in there, stay strong and keep us posted!
Best, - A12