05-04-2009, 09:14 AM
Join Date: Feb 2009
| | Encouraging spouse to read
My husband hates to read. I love to read and have read a couple books recently to help improve our relationship if he ever decides to come back and work on it - "Five Love Languages" and "Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus". I think he would benefit from reading these too, it would help him understand that our needs are different and what those needs might be.
He hates being told what to do (by me and probably by the authors!), and if I suggested he read these books he probably would get a little angry, be put off, whatever. It would not be a good reaction.
The books have been on my nightstand and I believe he read the titles when he was visiting. He did not comment on them or ask me about them.
"The Five Love Languages" inspired me to write a short letter to him. I'd like for him to at least read the letter, which I know he would do.
I'm going out of town for the weekend and he will be taking care of our pets. Do you think it would be a good idea to leave the book (5LL, the other has to go back to the library) and the letter where he will see it? That way he can read the letter and take the book if he wants to. The letter does not ask him to read the book.
Or should I accept that he doesn't want to work on things now, and I risk pushing him away with any relationship talk whatsoever?