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Originally Posted by synthetic  oh Fernie... no way. no freaking way a walkaway wife should ever be entitled to such high levels of humility and respect by her left-behind husband. Advice like this is why most of them don't come back.
A walkaway wife needs to be completely let-go, detached from and cut off from all forms of support (financial, emotional, physical).
The love doesn't die, but codependency MUST. Codependency and love are confused on a daily basis by billions of people on earth.
/disclaimer: Walkaway spouses running from abuse, infidelity and addiction are a different topic. |
You see synthec every relationship
Is different. If I write a list here about what my ex had to put up with then you would agree with her I'll name a few
She makes 90k I make 10k
She cleaned the house I didn't help
She wanted affection I have none
She wanted to feel loves I couldn't show her
She wanted sex and I didn't sleep with her
I gambled to push my depression in (not knowing I had it, when my mother in law died it did something to my soul).
No I'm not saying keep hope. Not when it's too late. This is however to any person who still has a chance. One that is still in contact with the wife and feels that he made mistakes and will work on them.
This is not for someone who is already divorced because the WAW won't come back.
Take lovingsummer for instance. She's tried. She has suffered through so much and she is about to hit that cliff. I guarantee her H does not expect it. He has no clue and when the S hits the fan. That guy is going to be like a baby and instantly he will realize what he did but it will be too late .
And also usually in WAW (from what I've read) will quickly jump into another relationship because they crave that attention. And the guy ( like myself wonders how did I lose her). Difference is I accept it and better myself so there won't be another WAW in my life. So I'm fixing all my issues. I've come along way on 10 months but I still have that financial issue I'm working on. Next year I will finish my credentials and that will finally jump me into something decent . I'll hit the 40k mark. I can't date and won't date till then. I want to show my value to myself first of else I'm setting myself up for failure again
Synth I know you make good $ and your wife doesn't make as much. She has issues and is working on them. But then why did you take her back?????
Because your trying to believe her. Yes that's right you want her to be true and real. The person you love.
You are in the roll of the female in this. Remember you changed and tried and then it wasn't good enough for her so then the D was coming and you flipped roles
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It maybe to late for me but not for you !!!! 
I hate the "label" I guess. But I am guilty, I screwed this up as much as him but I can only change myself and can't drag him along kicking and screaming to continue our vicious cycle that is making our M unhealthy. I've tried to pull us out of it but I can't do it on my own.
