Pls help in writing letter to separated spouse
Hello .. well I have started using this forum for advise and suggestions,, and they have all been great, however not sure if I should wait it out,, or just write a letter to make it easier ...... Heres a little synopsis on me: 3 weeks into separation .. I love my husband ,, however he's not sure of his feelings towards me anymore, 3rd time in 12 yr relationship stating he doesnt know if he loves me. we decided to separate, never thought he would leave, but he chose to... to sort out his feelings... did what im not supposed to sat.. begged, pushed, was getting too close,, he looked very uncomfortable when i got close to touch him and hug him .... felt desperate, never been in this situation ever.. i did wrong in doing so , however due to my pushing him, he told me he doesnt love me and doesnt want to save marriage, not even for our son.... I accepted it ,, and got upset, Naturally. packed all his stuff.. took off all pictures with him in them and put under the bed. he was shocked to see that,, he texted me ,, why was I angry, it not like i cheated on him" I told him ,, You chose deal with it. and keeps texting me, and i ended up calling him ,, and looked to me like there was hope after all .. he said he didnt mean that he didnt love me,, but he still doesnt know,, so feels llike we are back in square one. Now I feel like im the only one trying to make an effort to save our marriage, by giving him more time, helping him find a counselor, etc. but no effort has been put in his part. I texted and asked if he's made an appt. ,, and has not. I hate living like this,, im in limbo ,, will he come back to salvage what we have? is it over? i hate this and want closure..... Should I write a brief letter letting him know that its obvious he doesnt want to come back and to make it easier for him and have ME finish the releationship? I mean , I dont want to, but it takes two. and this is toooo much ... or should i back off and still give him all the time he wants.. this is killing me ... any feedback would be greatful at this point.. have a good day .