Re: Wife told me today she doesn't love me anymore
Unless your wife is in an affair fog, I would recommend against filing for divorce and starting to socialize with other women. There's a chance that it will shock your wife into stopping taking you for granted, but there's also a good chance that it will make her quit counseling, divorce you, and will make you appear like the bad guy to your kids.
I agree with Frostflower and Nsweet. You need to back off from trying to convince your wife that you love her. She knows that you love her, she knows what you want, so when you repeat it (even with the best intensions) it comes across like nagging to her.
Instead, do the 180 -- take care of yourself and your relationship with your kids, be cordial with your wife, but do not press to talk about the relationship (outside of counseling), do not talk about the past, do not tell her you love her.
I recommend reading "The Divorce Remedy" it has some good strategies for how to change up your approach to the relationship.
Who is your counselor? Is it through your church? Are you both in IC or are you doing MC? Do you think that your counselor is biased towards either reconciliation or divorce?