08-29-2012, 03:18 PM
Join Date: Aug 2012
| | Re: How to handle visitation during separation?
Dear God, please yes, I'd love to see some examples of what works, too. I told my STBXH that he can't continue to just drop by or hang out here with our kids, yet he continues to do it. In fact, he's coming by tonight even after I gave him a letter outlining that I do not want him here. He's obviously trying to see if I'm going to stick to my guns so I'm going to have a little chat with him tonight and let him know that I am going to do just that. That's the only reason I'm even allowing it tonight because I want NC at this point if he's not willing to work on our marriage. My STBXH likes to just call me 15 minutes before and tell me he wants to see the kids, obviously just whenever he doesn't have other plans and can work them in. What has worked well for others? I don't mind that he sees them more than "standard" days, I just don't want to have to see him in the process!! It upsets me and disrupts my whole day, which I think is what he likes, not to mention makes it that much harder for me to let go and detach like I told him I wanted to. I think he's pushing me to see what he can get away with. Yours probably is, too, specialplace!