Well, even though I do love him, until he grows up - I have no desire to have him back in our lives. He refuses to take any responsibility for anything. World of Warcraft and Gambling came first for him. If he wants to live that way - good luck to him. I have my babies who need me and that's where my attention is. Making them safe, happy, and healthy. Thank the lord for people who care though, without them, I may have lost myself.
We went into court for support and he got nailed, he then said :I spoke to my lawyer yesterday and divorce papers will be done this week." As soon as the mediator left the room, I asked him if he was going to see the kids. His response "You'll have to wait to hear from my attorney." Then he sat there and bashed me verbally for an hour in front of the mediator (which is probably why she nailed him with so much support), she leaves again and he says "Wow, you really put the ----s to me didn't ya? Well you'll be set then." I said, "I didn't do this, the mediator asked you what you thought was fair and you agreed!"
Once again, I'm to blame, he will never take any of it. As for him filing, good, I deserve someone who isn't a selfish jerk and so do my kids.
Hey as you know my wife is addicted an mmo online game too.
I kinda like you had to start to really yell at her to get her attention also. became habit. when left Last week i had to move over to a friends house with our kids. good thing they've know each other since birth. made it a lil easier but still hard. I now have to move out of the house by myself and store her stuff for her. It is hard when the kids see you down. Like you said put on the playdough smile and keep moving forward. Hang in there. Im trying nd it is hard. Remember the old saying what comes around goes around. Sounds like he got what he deserved. Just shrug off whatever he blames you for. Just look at him nd say "hmmph whatever" throw on a smile and walk away.
Thank you Sprite, we finally moved and the kids love being close to their godparents and my best friends. Having all my girls so close and being here to support me has been tremendous!
Lost - You are right and that is EXACTLY what I plan to do
He gave me a lame excuse as to why he blew off the kids for 2 days, nevermind he hasn't seen them in 2 weeks. He wants to take the youngest to an amusement park today but he can't come to get him without his mom. My H won't do anything without his mom... he can't even talk to me without her being present.
I told him I needed my car back because I wanted to go back to school.. he was angry because I want to go get my nursing license. I just said, "I don't want to depend on you for support" and he got quiet. He doesn't speak to me, ever. His excuses get even worse everytime he blows the kids off and when he does show, its with his mom. I guess I'm pretty scary! However being on my meds has made me feel better, and I can handle seeing him but talking to him is hard for me still...
I know where you are coming from it is hard talking to the H/W in these type of situations. I know there have been times i just want to scream at the top of my lungs at her. I know that wouldnt do any good. AS far as hubby not seeing the kids all that junk. you know my thoughts on that. As far as "mommy" goes thats the main reason i sought out a website this. Friends and family are great for support but not nesaccerly (msp) best advice, as im sure it is with the best intentions.
You will make it through just remember we all Got Friends and family that do care about us.
I am so much happier, and its amazing. Being back on my meds has made me see things so much clearer, and to be honest, even though seeing him hurts, and his actions towards me are childish, I got my kids and my friends. I have been so blessed with positive people that have held my hand a few times and kicked me in my ass to get me motivated.
H can have his online video games, he can enjoy his virtual life. I have my REAL one, and my life isn't so bad.
Good for you LilMama!!! My stbx is immature and worthless too! Although things are bad for me with my health and financial woes, I know I will be better off without mine too! His OW will figure out and very soon that he is a "poser" and just a big wuss. She thought she had a decent man but will see the truth quickly!
Thank you toomanytears, I am trying very hard and finally the tears have stopped. However, so has any communication. He doesn't speak to me or the kids at all, not sure why he cut off the munchkins, they did nothing wrong, however his "me" kick is old and to be honest, I'm over that. I'm pretty proud of myself for being able to bounce back and try to be myself without him. I got my car fixed (finally) and got him to sign off of it. That's the next step in my life and now I am trying as hard as I can to get everything else in order. 1 step at a time, and my kids are going to visit their gram for a week. I'm a bit upset over them leaving for a week but I guess I could use the break, just not sure what the hell to do with myself!
I've always had to tend to my kids or my husband, so being completely alone for a week is going to be rough...
So I figured I'd update once more. He hasn't filed, he has had a girlfriend and he introduced our son to her. I was pretty ticked since he flipped his grip over me just talking to a male friend!! He won't discuss why he hasn't filed yet. Not sure what he is planning, but if he thinks he's keeping me on the back burner, he's sadly mistaken.
I would but the problem is, he wiped me out financially. When he left and drained the acct, he overdrew it, causing me to have no way of getting a checking account. Also left me in BIG debt and refuses to help with it.
He's still living with mommy, and has filed to stop child/spousal support. I even agreed to allow it to be lower than guideline and haven't asked him for 1 thing! I'm paying all the bills HE never paid in my name, I paid to get my car back, I even tried to get into school but thanks to him, I had to pass. He has done nothing for the kids, even skipped out on seeing them again (they waited on the front porch for him!) I asked him to buy new bike pedals for our 4 yo son's bike, he never got them. That has been the extent of what I've asked him for. One would think he'd remove his head from his ass but he won't even call these children. I have to call him and he won't answer.
Now I'm scared to death he's going to be able to end the child/spousal support and then the kids and I will be back on the streets (when he left, he made sure we had nothing and were forced to seek help to get a new home.) I just don't understand his thinking!!!
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