My Wife Says It's Over, Won't talk at all
So my wife told me that the marriage is over and she will not talk to me at all! She blocked my number so I cannot call her or text her.
My wife and I began dating in 2001. We married on Oct. 19, 2008. So we dated for about 7 years. During the time of us dating, she would have these moments where she would "run". She would, out of the blue, say the relationship was too much for her, tell me it was over, and leave. Weeks later, we will be back together. This would happen like clock work, at least twice a year.
In 2007, she gave her life to the Lord, was baptized and never ran again. So in March of 2008 I proposed. Things were great up until Feb. of this year. She unexpectedly told me she was not coming home and was going to her parent's house. I BLEW UP! I told her we are not dating anymore, we are married! No more back and forth is what I told her. She said okay, and moved out.
A month later she was back home because her parents kicked her out. We were dating while she was at her parents house and she was angry with her parents for untimely putting her out. She said she wanted one more month for us to continue dating. So we both agreed that she would rent a room from a house around the street so we could continue working on the marriage without living together because we thought the constant seeing each other would lead to another blow up.
I became extremely busy with work. She would come home everyday, but little did I know, she was wanting me to tell her to come home. She would tell our pastor that she did not know how much more she could take of this, living separate and how badly she wanted to come home. She never told me this, though she swears she did. Anyway, 3 weeks ago, she told me out of the blue that I would not be seeing her that weekend. I tried to talk to her to find out what was wrong because we had been doing so well. She said nothing and was clearly depressed. I got angry and silly me, told her, "you're not happy. you're making me unhappy. just go on with your life. this back and forth, our family does not need."
That hurt her and we did not talk for a week. After a week I tried contacting her but she was not having it. This past weekend she came home while I was not home and got her stuff. I went to her place where she is staying, spoke with her and she said the marriage is over. Said I made her feel like a door mat. Said she finds it funny that I want to work on the marriage now when she has been wanting it for months. She said, "no. I don't want it. I'm done." I tried texting her over and over again and she put a block on my phone.
I am 100% committed to making it work. But how do I do that without being able to contact her at all??? Should I give her time to cool off?