Re: Sex during separation?
My husband and I have been separated for 4 months now, and have been having sex during the separation. He left, I want to work on things. It is certainly a confusing decision.
I have told my husband in no uncertain terms that if he wishes to start dating / having sex with other women he has to divorce me first. Otherwise, if he is still undecided about divorce, I am willing to maintain sexual contact.
I am usually the one to initiate, but if he asks and I'm just not in a good place at the time, I will say no. It is not punishment. I am really not trying to play games. I don't think that sex will bring him back, and I don't think that withholding sex will bring him back.
It is hard because it gives me some hope, but on the other hand, what is the point of making myself more miserable by not getting to have sex?