Re: Questioning NC w/ STBXW?
One suggest given to me is wait till you see your stbx after a period of NC, do the 180, be happy as you can be and just... talk. NOT about the troubles.
They said, get into contact, get into good graces again, by NOT bringing up the past and act like it is in the past... because it is. If you decide to R at some point, THEN is the time to talk about things. He said to pretend it's a new relationship and all is well. See where it goes and if the time comes, then discuss what went wrong and how to fix it.
Seems wise, but getting TO THAT point is rough.
As threads have proven, we sometimes get lost in healing, we move on and say to heck with it for good and no longer want R.
Good luck at the party, hope things go well. If you're looking for changes, SMALL CHANGES are BIG CHANGES! If she didn't hug you before, but hugs you at the party, check mark a positive. do that all night and you may be surprised.
"It's not about how hard you can hit. It's about how hard you can GET HIT and keep moving forward"