I am a new poster here so please forgive me for rambling on. This is the first time I am speaking about how I feel so openly.
6 weeks ago my husband decided that he doesn't 'love me' the way he should love his wife (His words). We have been together as a couple for 7 years and only married 7 months.
We had a wonderful wedding, amazing honeymoon and he says that he was so happy at this point, but everything went wrong after.
We argued a lot in may - combination of my work stress and just not getting on which was unusual as we never used to argue much.
He said since then he doesn't feel the way he should about me. he told me this initially in June and we said we would try and work things through. Since June he has been telling me everything is going well and OK and I shouldn't worry. Then out of the blue in November he started being really distant and not speaking to me or interacting at all.
i asked him what was wrong - he said nothing - I asked again as I could tell there was a problem and he said he didn't want to be with me anymore as he didn't love me.
the terrible thing is he keeps saying that 'he cant give me what I want' - what does this mean?
We have been actively seeking help for planning a family as I suffer from diabetes and we needed to plan family carefully.
So he has left, he wont contact me unless I contact him about mundane things like the house etc. Whenever I say that i miss him he ignores me.
If I ask him to come home he just says he is happier without me and I need to understand that he is doing the right thing for us both in the long run.
I just cant understand how this can possibly be right - we were so happy only 7 months ago - and now its as though I never existed. I am so heartbroken. I cant stop crying. He didn't contact me at all over christmas and will only talk to me about things that are not related to us as a couple.
Some people tell me that this is just his coping mechanism but why wont he try everything before he leaves us?
I feel so let down. I have never seen him like this before at all. I look back to messages from April and May and they are full of love. What on earth has gone so wrong?
He cant answer this for me - he says he can't keep hurting me any more and he is not being cruel as being cruel would be lying to me and keeping me stringing along.
Why get married if he felt this way? He says he wanted to get married it just all went wrong after.
Please can anyone shed some light on my situation? I just don't understand why the person I love so much has just given up on us.