Re: How do I protect myself?
If you've got 17 years and a couple kids with her and she came out with this divorce idea only one month ago, I'd drag my heels and let whatever or whomever blow over. Protect yourself financially without being nasty about it but I wouldn't be in a hurry to start divorce paperwork. Maybe a legal separation. Men and women both can act a little goofy around age 40. It passes. Even if there is another guy on the side, most of those fizzle out as well. You've got a lot invested. If she's a complete waste, you have a great chance to dump her but if she's been a decent wife, you may want to develop some unusual patience for a time.