07-06-2009, 05:45 PM
Join Date: Apr 2009
Location: SE Wisconsin
| | Re: To kick or not to kick?
Is his name on the mortgage? I can't remember. If so, he needs to keep paying it or his credit will be ruined, too. Preso's idea about taking in kids or others to watch is a good way to earn income at home, too.
I say tell him to leave--you need him gone. Tell him you have re-thought the whole "waiting til I'm financially stable" thing and if he cannot commit to you, he should go. (If you make it his "choice," you aren't kicking him out). He can sleep on a friend's couch and his pretty little charade will be blown apart. Let him deal with the friends and their questions. You have protected him too long. Make sure he knows he needs to pay the mortgage and give you enough money to feed and care for everyone until you raise an income. Mention your plans for earning $$ and tell him the two of you can sit down and work out a budget again once you are working, but you need X amount of money to get through the next couple of weeks.
If he won't go--or he comes back, but not with commitment--then separate bedrooms for sure, and don't take care of him. His laundry, meals, etc. need to be his own.
Good job, snix. Good luck executing your plan.