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Old 01-28-2013, 05:55 AM   #1 (permalink)
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Silly question. But what did you do with your wedding rings? Mine are in a box in a closet. What should I expect my STBXW to do with hers? Should I care? I gave her a 10 year diamond Anniversary band, a 20 year diamond Anniversary band, in addition to her engagement and wedding band. I have my original wedding band, a 20 year band that replaced the original, as well as a watch my STBXW gave me on our 15th which I still wear.

I almost feel like giving her all my stuff and asking her to give back all hers.
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Old 01-28-2013, 06:09 AM   #2 (permalink)
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I was thinking the same thing. I have thee most beautiful big diamond wedding ring ever...it's worth is 10 grand. The band was a designer brand not made anymore. I can't even look at it. I've admired it since the day it was picked out its that beautiful. It's exquisite.

It's in a porcelain egg on my dresser. I can't open it. I can't look.
The only thoughts I have is to sell it. Get it out of my life.

As for his his was 1300 some type of medal cool lookin woven band. Designer blah blah..

I have thought of asking for that back in the divorce too...to sell it.

I need the money and he didn't deserve it.

The only thing I can think of is to sell it. At the jewelry store...
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Old 01-28-2013, 08:21 AM   #3 (permalink)
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I sold my wedding band to a pawn shop for $140. My ex wife told me she went to a jeweler and is trying to sell hers...she'll get well into the 5 figures for hers, she'll come out way ahead on this as she did on every aspect of our marriage and divorce....
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Old 01-28-2013, 08:36 AM   #4 (permalink)
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We've only been seperated 3 weeks, on friday i sold all the wedding rings and bought myself a big new t.v. I didnt need the money, as i have a good job. But as a symbol of me moving on, i needed to spend that money on a treat for myself.
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Old 01-28-2013, 09:54 AM   #5 (permalink)
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Do you have children?

If yes, then offer the ring and watch to the children. She should follow suit but you cannot obviously make her to do that.

If no, then sell it all either to a jeweler, pawn, online, etc. Take the money and do what you want with it, go spoil yourself.

I wouldn't worry much with what she does with her stuff, she's not your worry any longer. Keep on moving forward
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Old 01-28-2013, 10:09 AM   #6 (permalink)
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I have two daughters, but kind of feel like the rings would be worthless to pass on because of the taint.

I'm kind of pissed about the 20th Anniversary band I gave my stbxw because that was around the time she started her EA (totally unbeknownst to me). I ordered it many months in advance (before she met the OM) and it was custom made - full diamond circle. That's when she got me a platinum wedding ring to replace my original (which come to think of it, I paid for - because my wife wasn't working at the time of our marriage).

I know it was a gift, made with love - but it bothers me that she hasn't offered to return anything which was a token of our marriage. It's not like she is ever going to wear them again.

You're right - I should just move on - in the grand scheme of things the rings are just a symbol.
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Old 01-28-2013, 03:41 PM   #7 (permalink)
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My wife didn't even tell me she was taking the ring in to have it appraised, I found the receipt in her car when I was backing it out of the garage to put away the christmas tree up on the garage shelves.

Then she has the audacity to accuse me of going through her stuff... it was sitting right on the seat.

Like I said in my thread, I seriously think the dishonest deceit is every bit as painful as the emotional affair that led to her "I don't want to be married, I don't love you" comment. But then again, they are one in the same for the most part.
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My STBXH threw his in the river. So he says...the latest set of rings we got after the last false R. Been married 8yrs almost and have had 3 rings. I gave mine to my grandmother to hold.
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Wow.. just wow, I don't even know what to say about that M25. Are you filing yet or still holding out hope?
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Nothing left to hold onto PO. Waiting on my forms from legal aide and ill be filing.
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Good. I can be upset with my wife over what she is doing, but my wife has some real issues going on inside, and she is NOT genuinely mean spirited... to do some of what your husband has done, cripes... that's just cruel.
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He could take on the role as Saten himself.
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The day I sat down with the D papers I took mine off and left it on her jewelry box. I don't want it and its an heirloom.
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Someone told me to take the center diamond and turn it into a necklace since I'll never wear it as a ring again. Not sure about the side stones. I've definitely thought about this though. And my wedding dress. And the photo albums.
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i gave it back to STBXH the day before i left the house.i dont need any reminder
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