Facing divorce
My husband wants a divorce. I don't. If it does go through I don't know what's going to happen to me and my son. When I married my husband I moved across the country to be with him. I made the decision to spend my life with him. Now he's making a decision that will change my life and my sons life forever. We moved 2 years ago to be closer to my family and his other son from his first marriage, however, we are still 4hrs away from them (and 8 from my mom). Now that he is talking divorce, he expects me to stay in this area. I may want to move (with my son of course) to be near my family for support. If I try to leave, he will fight me for our son. He is trying to control this whole process, and rush it. I told him that if he rushes this process I will dig in my heals. He wants me to move out, us to establish visitation for him and child support amount, and then he will file. I don't know if this is the best way to deal with this. He is trying to set is all up so that he gets the house and I can't leave the area. The house is not my concern because I know I can not afford it on my own, even with child support. I am scared to death of not getting full custody of my son. I truly need to have him, this is not just a want, it really is a need. I'm sure you moms out there will understand this. I have plans to get an attorney, I hope he's a good one.
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Our communication has been broken down for years, heck, maybe we never really had good communication. Whenever we try to talk about serious stuff (involving feelings) one of us tends to 'shut down'. He is afraid to open up to me (or at least that's what he says). I am trying to be patient (which is very difficult since I'm not a patient person). I am trying to be loving toward him and I just hope that this wall he has up will come down. I don't know how long I can continue to put in the effort without getting anything in return. 
