Ya, I seriously don't understand what she wants from you. It's like you're trying everything and she will shoot you down no matter what, because she is living and breathing OM hooha...
This is why I suggested alll that stuff in my previous post. Call on your self-strength.
Where is your bucket list? What does 2kids want to do with the rest of his life? Bucket list, bucket list, bucket list!!! FYI, the bucket list is the things you put in your "bucket" of things you've got to do in your life.
Get this. I get a phone call from W saying it is important. I call back, as I was working on a machine. She says OM is real upset, crying about what happened with his stbx and them working on his divorce. My guess, she whacked him about having an affair. Anyway, W asked if I could come home so she could go see a friend and make sure he is ok... WHAT! NO, of course not. I am at work. I have things I am doing. It is wrong, hurtful and dysfunctional as well. I gotta go.
Then after a bit, she calls back and says that her mom was no help, and she should just call him.
She is mad, but I am smiling... Made me feel good.
Airee:
Can you give me a minute? I am at work, ya know...
As I have been trying to put myself and kids first, I have been thinkning of things I want to do. I need to get back into my hobbies - beer and wine making, photography, My car, and step out more and look for other opportunities to share these. I am making some calls and such to do this, so yes, that is my intent. I'd like to take the kids camping, someting I did many times while a child myself. Nothing to adventurous for me, I guess... I am a pretty simple guy. Simple needs.. No jumping out of planes or such...
Is hooha a better word? Lol! J/K, you know you and Denise are my favorite internet friends!
I like your bucket list! I see you have been thinking about it! Good for you!!!
Also, I love that you put her in her place and that momma didn't bail her out! She sounds like a big whiny-pants to me! Feels good to feel good, huh? I'm proud of ya!
What does stbx mean?
Are you smiling! I hope so! That's why I degraded myself to mooning you on the internet!
I gotta go, I have so much paperwork to work on...I hate being a professional. This is why I'm hooked to this forum. I can be a normal adult on here, not so darn serious all the time!
Get this. I get a phone call from W saying it is important. I call back, as I was working on a machine. She says OM is real upset, crying about what happened with his stbx and them working on his divorce. My guess, she whacked him about having an affair. Anyway, W asked if I could come home so she could go see a friend and make sure he is ok... WHAT! NO, of course not. I am at work. I have things I am doing. It is wrong, hurtful and dysfunctional as well. I gotta go.
Then after a bit, she calls back and says that her mom was no help, and she should just call him.
She is mad, but I am smiling... Made me feel good.
make sure he's okay!?!?!?
how's this: he's NOT okay! he's diseased. he's a goddam adulterer. he's destroying two families.
okay?!?! no if i get my hands on him!
sorry. i can't hold it in when it's just me and this keyboard.
Airee: No, I don't think that is better. of the two, Juice is preferred. Less of an image...
stbx = soon to be ex
Yes, the little smiley butts did make me laugh. especially because there was three of them!
To all of you, THANKS! You all validate what I feel and help me through what is happening. I was down earlier today, and now I am better. I may actually get some sleep tonight. Probably get yelled at tomorrow for this evenings events, but I still feel good about it. I hope I do the same for someone else here sometimes.
I think you need to share what you know with more than just us. You need to tell everyone what your wife is doing. If you get proof of what she is doing a judge wont give her custody or alimony, thats why a PI would be smart. After 20 years of marriage this is insane. I hope you stay strong.
Hubby is taking me on a kayak trip. I hope I don't drown and there is no alligators in the waters! Will be back on Monday!
I'll try to steal some internet time in though
Vovoid- I love your post!
2kids, way to tell your wife! And let her know screaming is not appropriate when she talks to you. Here!
I can't believe I just read those words. A little before heading to work, my wife gave me my divorce papers. She almost seemed happy about it, cold at the least. Its going to be a useless night at work.
Right now I don't even know what to think.. dazed, stunned, shocked. I reallize that it was coming, and I knew that. However, when the stack of papers is right in front of you, its a different story. Lots of hurt. Lots of... I dont' know what.
I'll write more later, as I have to go stumble around work and try to be productive. Hopefully I don't get hurt.
Sucky part... I was feeling pretty good in the morning...
So sorry. Here for ya...Will check more frequently today, even if it's from my mobile.
Hang in there. You knew this was coming. Remember what I told you about you having the control of yourself. You hold that power. Don't give it to her anymore. Especially, if she was happy about it. I mean :WTF: is she trying to hurt you on purpose or something? That is really wrong.
Remember, for 5 years, I have hurt her. Looking back as I am now, it should have been obvious to me then. Even if it is not consious behavior, I imagine there is something of her that wants to get even.
no1...this is going to be a tough day! When I read your posts, I can tell that you are a strong person.
I can only imagine, no matter how prepared you are, getting those papers. I think I would want to puke!
I know you've hurt each other...we all have played roles in our marriage problems. You can't live with another human without saying or doing things that you regret. It's called being Human!
Re: My wife filed... Dazed and confused 
Made me feel good.
(I put that there for you)
