08-24-2009, 06:11 PM
Join Date: Apr 2009
| | Re: So I thought it was over
My advice is to not let him swing back into the marriage without some sort of commitment. He may want sex or comfort at this point. It's a fine line but sometimes they want an intact marriage and no reconciliation. There are differences between intactness and reconciliation in marriage. When a spouse wants an intact marriage they are coming back because of reasons that won't hold the marriage together long term (lonely, kids, financial reasons). When a person wants to reconcile...the issues that they left are resolved (affairs, grass is greener, etc) and they recognize the part that they played in the relationship breakdown. They are also ready to work on the relationship.
Before I dated him, I would want to find out his motivation. Of course, that will take communication. Good luck.