08-26-2009, 12:45 PM
Join Date: Aug 2009
| | Re: Grieving the loss of a marriage
I read all these posts and it reminds me very much of where I was less than a year ago. I was the one getting dumped and it felt like it was something I would never recover from. Itís amazing how much we beat ourselves up, usually after WE were the ones getting dumped on to begin with. I ended up going to a life coach, because it seemed the breakup was spilling over into every avenue of my life and I had no idea how to move on and move up. Part of me didnít even want to. But, it was one of the best decisions I ever made. She taught me how to heal, move on, and (probably most importantlyÖ) how to seek out people who were not just good for me Ė but great for me. I guess I did find I had some insecurities and things from the past that I had hung on to which put me in a stuck place with no idea how to grow past the pain of being dumped. I now have an awesome person in my life who doesnít MAKE me who I am, but compliments my life and it feels great! I guess I would encourage you to find someone, whether itís a close friend, life coach, mentor, etc., who can help you walk on in your life and make good decisions so you can get the most out of the short time we all have here. Good luck to you!!