Re: Wife won`t come home
I agree with Swedish. She will need to resolve what made her go. If she didn't want to go, when you asked her to, then she would have spoken up. You just gave her a reason to go...she was already thinking of it.
All you can do, like the others have said, is pull back and let her come to you. Whatever contact that you do have...it should be limited and not needy sounding. Become a happy, attractive, person that is doing something with their life. THAT is attractive and will grab her attention.
B-day gifts. I'd might be tempted, if it wasn't over the top..."I love and can't live without you" type thing.