Thanksgiving turned out nice. I cooked dinner. My friend came over to join us along with my mom and her husband. My daughter was also home. We ate and visited.
My friend and I had some wine and visited more after everyone left. She told me her brother had the hots for me. I was flattered that he thought I was hot and sweet! haha. He's semi dating another gal that I know. A big no no for me. Plus, I'm not at ALL interested.
Woke up this AM and went to go get a tree with my D. My H offered help. I politely said "no thanks." He would love nothing more to "help." I'm not sure of his motives. Being an NG, I now suspect that it may not even be sincere. I think...he'd help but feel resentful because he REALLY didn't want to help. HAHA!
I'm going to dinner with H's sister and brother in law to a fancy restaurant. It's my brother in laws birthday. They asked me out!
FA: I'm not sure if they wanna date or something else! Not interested either way. This particular guy is a player.
Yep. I found a tree and just put on the lights. I thought I had enough but need more!
Dinner was nice with the in-laws. They told me something interesting that I wasn't to share with my H.
My H's dad is very laid back. NEVER gives advice to anyone. Figures people are going to do what they want anyway. True. I've been dissappointed that his parents haven't questioned him on his decision.
I've known that his mom has been upset. She sees me at a daughter. Calls weekly to tell me how much she loves me.
Found out that my H's dad had a talk. Seems to have asked my H..."what are you doing? You have a family that loves you and a daughter to care for until she leaves high school. Why can't you stick around for her at least?" My H's shoots back.."dad why didn't you stick around in your first marriage for your 3 daughters?" Touche! I think my father-in-law should have taken a different approach!!
I was even surprised that he tried. My H is so defensive at this point. My brother in law tonight (retired chief of police) told me he's known dozen of guys that have left their wives. They always seem to have someone waiting in the wings. He can't believe and doesn't believe that my H has someone waiting. He is VERY surprised and perplexed by this. He says..."S...he'll be back within a year." I said "yea...I won't be waiting." He said "good."
CW, like your BIL. At least your father in law tried. Got to give him credit for that. Might not have been the best way -- full frontal assault leaving his left flank open. But they are all right.
Glad you found a good tree. Maybe it is one of the great NC trees we have. I always hate it when you don't have enough lights.
Didn't know he was a player. Not a good type that is for sure. But I was right. Believe me it is your inner self that is attractive to guys. At least on here your inner strength shines brightly to us all.
FA: So nice FA. Yep. His dad was blind-sided! haha poor guy.
I bet my tree is a NC tree. By the time it gets chopped down, shipped here, sits in a parking lot and to my house...it's worn out! I've had a nice looking fake tree for the past few years (huge). But, I decided that I couldn't man handle it out of the attic by myself. My D loves the smell of the real deal. So...I made the call.
I don't know FA. I'm so real that anyone fake is so unattractive. I am a skeptic with people. They have to prove themselves to be loyal and honest. I can smell a rat easy. I'm a lucky girl to be so sensible. I won't get taken advantage easily.
So much for the weekend with my D. She is going with her girlfriends family to watch the HS playoffs a few hours away. She's 15 and I'm not about to make her hang with me becaause I miss her!
FA: Unattractive in that they pretend that they are someone that they are not! I LOVE confidence and humor. I detest arrogance as well. I know many wealthy people that you wouldn't know they have money. Then there are others that APPEAR to be wealthy but are in debt up to their eyeballs. Of course, this economy has flushed out alot of wannabees.
Tonight, I find it extremely weird. I went out to a casual bar tonight with a friend. Two guys invited us to play pool. One asked for my number...I told him nicely "nope." Prior, they asked us what we did. I asked the same. They responded "law enforcement" and was "secretive." I thought BS. They were all of 30. Hunks and all. My skeptism is there. Why does he want my number? Why didn't he tell me what they did. Maybe they were some undercover secret agents! haha.
Given their age they might have gotten their secret decoder ring out of the Capn Crunch box! I don't think they were intimidated but they were very nice.
I actually became the "The Black Widow" (I think that the pro ladies name) in one shot. I ended up putting in 4 balls. Then, I missed 2 shots all together with only hitting the cue ball. Finally, I sunk the 8. It was fun. I hadn't played pool in 10 years!!
Ah yes the Black Widow - or maybe Fast Eddie Felson aka Paul Newman. Pool can be fun with the right crowd.
Then if not intimidated, they found you attractive and fun. Wanted your number for who knows. But obviously blundered with the i'm 007 stuff. Oh well. At least you had a good time and that is what its all about.
Last night we had a bonfire at the beach. Absolutely beautiful. The beach had a soft breeze (rare) and the sand wasn't too soft to drive (recent rains). It was cool enough to warrant a fire but not freezing. I got home at a perfect time to watch a little tv and go to bed.
I had texted my H something. He called me right away. He thought we were made at him this weekend. I didn't say anything just listened. He said "I though you and B were mad at me. Usually someone texts or calls but this weekend nothing. Then, I found out B was out of town." I didn't say I was mad or respond to his statements. WOW! I thought..he's either bored or sensitive at these point. Why would he worry about me being angry? Which I am not.
He's coming over this afternoon to do some work in the garage on our son's vehicle. He sounded excited to come over.
This is me NOT analyzing him. I don't really care if he's excited or happy or upset at this point.
We agree to finalize the divorce division today. None of this back and forth stuff (my suggestion). He doesn't want to argue. I DON'T. We haven't. I stand up for what I think is right on my behalf...he's not good at that but instead skirts the issues without being confrontational. He is totally NG at these moments. It's hard to negotiate with someone who really doesn't want to negotiate but pretend he does. I have been flexible on my side but he "pretends" to be.
CW- I think not calling him is good. He has to start feeling alone. He can't keep thinking you'll be there. In a way of getting reality to sit before it's final. He seems to be thinking everything will be status quo even after the divorce. You might want to start distancing yourself. When he asks you about it just say your moving on with your life.. Wonder how he will take it..