FW: I lived in Aiken, SC and Graniteville, SC. Both are inland. We lived there for about 3 years or so and had a great time.
I live on an island with a causeway and bridge to the mainland. I'd like to live closer to the bridge (in a subdivision) as it cuts down my commute and there is a few more things to ride my bike or walk to as well. Just a preference with the location.
It's wonderful how supportive you are FA and everyone else on this board! It's been a great way to vent and/or journal my life. I'm thankful!
CW -The friendship one is difficult - my H criticised me before he left saying that he was always disapointed that I didn't keep up with all my friends when we got together. Now that we are alone we look back and think "could I have been another person - one who was catching up with friends all the time?"
I believe however that friends true friends are as hard to find and sometimes to keep as partners - and at different times of your life you have more opportunity to connect with people...
Through this process I have lost a couple of people who I had thought were friends and I have connected with others.
I have never wanted a group of friends - have never expected that -
I feel honoured that I have connected with you guys however - life is full of surprises of lovely things that we can't see coming...
This "place" definitely came to me when I needed it the most...
Same here Ash. I was suicidal and through a series of searches I stumbled upon this site. What a blessing! You guys are my support system. My other "friends" and J's family have abandoned me. I'm so I can rely on you guys to understand and support.
CW -The friendship one is difficult - my H criticised me before he left saying that he was always disapointed that I didn't keep up with all my friends when we got together. Now that we are alone we look back and think "could I have been another person - one who was catching up with friends all the time?"
K, my H said the same thing to me before he left. He told me I would never be happy or have a lot of friends wherever I end up. Isn't that nice?
Funny thing is that I've been able to reach out to several close and old friends during this process. I've found I have more friends that I actually realized.
However, I've lost a few friends that we were friends with as a couple.
they weren't really friends were they? that's how I see it - anyway you need space for all the new friends in your life - like us!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Aiken is pretty cool. My brother's first wife worked at the Savannah Nuc facility there. Ever go the big steeplechase they have? I"ve never been, but it gets bigger and bigger every year. Not too far from Augusta either.
Well we need to help each other. It is great to have this resource. I've also been on another board recently the Divorce Busting board and it is good as well, but a little less sugar coated at times. Also really helps with specifics for people in the various situations that arise during the course of these crisis.
And you know you have the inner strength CW to do it.
FA: I loved Aiken...was there when my son turned 2. My H was a subcontractor with the Savannah Riversite Facility as well. They were a big employer. Horses were big there. We went to a race but was quite busy and poor at the time.
I've been to the divorce busting website as well. Lots of good information. It's a bit more specific.
CW,
It is great you are looking to be closer to a place you can bike/walk to more places from. I find that being outside walking/biking is a major spirit lifter for me. Being in a place where you can do that instead of driving makes a big difference.
I have these totally geeky metal baskets on back my bike, sometimes I go grocery shopping with my bike though and the baskets each hold 2 gallons of milk/juice with room to spare.
I love it MEM! A metal basket isn't geeky, it's chic!
Where I live there are only convenience stores within biking range. I haven't rode mine as it's dark by the time I get home.
It's good to get outside alright or at least exercise.
My friend, H, is a personal trainer. He got me to the gym on Sunday and we focused (this session) only on the upper body. We laughed alot as he thinks I am a comedy act sometimes. Today (2nd day) I am a little sore. We are going to meet and he'll run me through a different routine.
As I was getting ready, this morning, in an empty house it was running through my head how I have to get used to this. After almost 5 months, I am still trying to wrap my head around my life.
Tonight, per a phone call with my H, I called him a "selfish little man." He was shocked and said "what?" I said "you heard me. You are a selfish little man. I don't expect you to stand up for yourself. I don't expect for you to say anything back to me. You will avoid conflict" He basically ended with a "ok."
Isn't that pitiful? I felt guilty as if I kicked a puppy.
I also told him that I was tired of this nice-nice divorce talk. That was before the "selfish little man" thing!
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