I think I belong here now

knortoh · 12-20-2009, 02:55 PM

mls I don't know about the fixing things - all I know is my H didn't want to fix this - I think some things he was fine with fixing....

mls31 · 12-21-2009, 09:32 PM

I finally heard from my H. Of course it was by text. He wanted to call me during work to talk about something. I told him I was busy and that he can call me after I get off. He responded, "We shall see."

Whatever. If you want to talk to me, call me. I'm tired of holding your hand to get everything done. It's time for him to start acting like a man.

In other news, I found out that another guy is interested in me. One that I barely know and have talked to only a few times.

In addition, a very good male friend of mine keeps sending me emails and texts saying that I am an excellent catch and that he always wanted to date me. Don't know if he's serious or just trying to boost my spirits. I'm hoping the later.

Seriously, what is going on!?!

knortoh · 12-21-2009, 10:41 PM

yipeee for you mls ....so exciting to hear that the men in your part of the world are responding to you!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! enjoy the attention wonderful -

Corpuswife · 12-22-2009, 07:15 AM

You are becoming available! Why wouldn't someone want to get to know you. Just as a poster, I can tell that you are a pretty incredible human being!

When someone leaves us, it plays a role in how we feel about ourselves-if we aren't careful. Don't let his shortcomings be a reflection on the person that you really are...

mls31 · 12-22-2009, 06:04 PM

Well thank you! I hope someone thinks I'm a great catch... eventually. And it is nice to get attention again but I don't think I'm ready to date. I need to learn how to be single and happy first.

I don't know if any of you followed the marital issues, and now divorce, of the Governor of South Carolina, Mark Sanford (the one who claimed he was hiking the appalachian trail when he was seeing his mistress in S. America). I recently read an article where they interviewed his wife. She had this to say:

"Certainly his actions hurt me, and they caused consequences for me, but they don’t in any way take away my own self-esteem. They reflect poorly on him.”

I think this is an awesome statement. One that proves true to all of us.

knortoh · 12-22-2009, 08:06 PM

Thanks mls for sharing that it is awesome and well put.
How are you planning on keeping these guys at bay?

mls31 · 12-22-2009, 08:56 PM

I'm not sure how I'll keep these guys at bay.

I guess I'll cross that bridge when they are actually serious about going on a date.

Ash22 · 12-24-2009, 09:07 PM

Merry Christmas!! Hang in there! The holiday is almost done...and you got through it. Hope you are having a good time due to your circumstances...know you deserve so much more...

mls31 · 12-25-2009, 09:21 PM

Christmas went okay. I spent it with my parents. Tomorrow is when we'll open gifts with my brother and sister-in-law.

Tonight we cooked lobster, which was fun since we've never attempted it before. It turned out really well. I probably gained 5 pounds just from dinner.

All day I kept checking my phone thinking that my ex H would send me a text or something. I even thought about sending a text to him saying Merry Christmas. It's Christmas after all. However, I didn't. I told him a while ago that I would no longer be his friend, why should I wish him Merry Christmas? Besides, what has he done that has made him friend worthy in the past 4 months??

I don't know. I thought a lot about him today and what he is doing. No doubt he's not thinking about me.

Corpuswife · 12-25-2009, 11:24 PM

I know it takes some getting used to MLS...their absence.

knortoh · 12-26-2009, 02:25 PM

mls - you are such a clear thinker you really are - doesn't make the paibn any better but I admire your take on reality and the logical way you can consider your emotions....

hope present opening went well

Loving Husband · 12-27-2009, 04:48 PM

mls- you never know what he is thinking. He could be taking it just as hard as you. Hang in there.. It will get better.

mls31 · 12-27-2009, 09:04 PM

We had kind of a Christmas miracle here yesterday.

My brother and sister-in-law came in for the weekend. We exchanged gifts and my parents and I got the same gift from them. We got a framed picture of their first ultrasound!!

My SIL has been trying and dealing with fertility issues for the past 2 years. This is also the SIL who's father recently passed away from cancer. And here's the real kicker, her sister is also pregnant. They're only 3 weeks apart.

Talk about getting help from heaven! Hopefully this is a sign of better things to come from 2010.

I am beyond thrilled for them. However, it is a bit sad to know that children and pregnancy is not a possibility for me (not that I would want any right now).

knortoh · 12-27-2009, 09:30 PM

that's lovely news mls - and don't worry you have many child bearing years ahead of you

Corpuswife · 12-27-2009, 09:38 PM

Auntie MLS! Yea...that's terrific new!