10-03-2009, 10:40 PM
Join Date: Apr 2009
| | Re: I think I belong here now
mls: I've been through the MC route with my H. He also went through the motions. He liked going as he felt he has someone to direct our conversations. He doesn't like confrontations or conflict-so she was his savior from this.
However, he was emotionally detached and eventually it became divorce counseling. How to manage the divorce? How are we going to manage the kids, etc? After a month...I told him. "This is of no benefit to me. I am glad it makes you feel better that you can plan your divorce with a PROFESSIONAL. I am out." Every week, I was distraught after the sessions. Horrible.
My counselor said to me one day..."S...you don't need to return to this MC. It's no longer a benefit to your goals. You are being emotionally abused. You H is talking about a divorce and has YET to do anything about it. It's all talk!" Thank goodness for her. That was in April.
He just filed in mid Sept. Of course, I was pulling out the "stops"
to try to deter it in any way possible.
I know have similarities. Give this MC a second thought. If it's too painful for you. It you see nothing being gained after 4 session or more...reconsider. It's hard to get someone emtionally involved again, after they've checked out. He HAS to want it!!
Why do YOU think he's checked out of the marriage?