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Old 10-26-2009, 09:44 PM   #166 (permalink)
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K: I know that I feel the same. It's an important part of my healing process to be able to share. I also belong to a divorce support group. IN addition, my family and friends I have also support. However with family and friends...I talk a little about my life but don't overwhelm. I know that I would run them off.

However, you guys are always here for me to run my mouth or fingers or whatever???!!hahaha
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Old 10-27-2009, 06:42 AM   #167 (permalink)
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Yes we are CW. But isn't that the beauty of this forum, I can rant and vent for a while. Then you can. Then K can. And so on. That is what makes it special. We can be our true selves on here.
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Old 10-27-2009, 07:03 AM   #168 (permalink)
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FA have had a long conversation with H on phone tonight..he is trying to be honest with me I think - but he is admanant that he has always had lots of doubts about us - and he can't do us - doesn't want to try and convince himself of wanting to be committed when he doesn't...he still thinks that I have accused him of having a romantic idea of love ....
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Old 10-27-2009, 07:25 AM   #169 (permalink)
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That is interesting that he would think you accused him of having a romantic idea of love. Where is that coming from?
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Old 10-27-2009, 07:47 AM   #170 (permalink)
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He's always thought that since the beginning because I couldn't uderstand how he could separate his love for me from the kids etc etc...anyway tonight he said he was prepared to end up alone - he just couldn't do 'us'...
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Old 10-27-2009, 08:13 AM   #171 (permalink)
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K right now he might not be able to just do "a relationship" whether with you or with someone else. He really needs to find himself that is for sure.

How did you respond to the "you couldn't understand the seperation"?
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Old 10-27-2009, 10:14 AM   #172 (permalink)
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He said he can't really either - but he obviously can
I know FA he does need to find himself - and proabably can't do a relationship with anyone
but he sure doesn't want one with me.....
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Old 10-27-2009, 10:16 AM   #173 (permalink)
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Don't forget K that people say things that they might not mean, when confused and hurting on the inside. Just keep on with yourself. You are strong. Just remember that.
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Old 10-27-2009, 10:24 AM   #174 (permalink)
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Yes K...they do say and do things when they are confused and hurtings as FA says. Although it still stings to hear them say it!
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Old 10-27-2009, 10:33 AM   #175 (permalink)
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Thanks guys not sure he's that confused anymore - if you read my thread you'll see what I mean.
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Old 10-27-2009, 10:41 AM   #176 (permalink)
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I did K...he sounds sure. He probably was sure when he married you as well.
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Old 10-27-2009, 10:49 AM   #177 (permalink)
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Sure of what? Sure that he wanted to marry me ? He says that he thought it was the right thing to do...
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Old 10-27-2009, 11:00 AM   #178 (permalink)
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Sure that he loved you enough to marry you...sure that he was "in love" when you were pregnant with your first child.

I don't believe your H was never in love with you. Not with the kind of relationship that you had...It doesn't make sense. Maybe he felt like it was the right thing but there was love. There had to have been.
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Old 10-27-2009, 11:13 AM   #179 (permalink)
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Yep I guess so - just not the sort of love he needs to feel to commit.............no matter how you look at it he has felt that he settled for 'less' than full emotional satisfaction .........and now he wants more..

FA sorry for taking up your thread
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Old 10-27-2009, 12:38 PM   #180 (permalink)
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Never apologize K. I understand.
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