My New Beginning

Feelingalone · 10-16-2009, 09:45 AM

And yes it is killing me to hold onto this information.

rcjhKU1988 · 10-16-2009, 11:40 AM

FA,

I'm sorry to hear your latest struggles.

I just read this thread this morning and really, I should have read it before posting mine because I really feel like you are the same type of person as me and I totally sympathize with your struggle.

Feelingalone · 10-16-2009, 11:54 AM

With my w, yes I am. But I wasn't always this way. The difference to me is having my son. I value his wellbeing over anything and tried to apease. Big mistake. I lost my self. Finding out I had Mr. Nice Guy tendencies is a big step forward. Check out the book No More Mr. Nice Guy By Dr. Glover. Also there is a web site - www.nomoremyniceguy.com.

Feelingalone · 10-16-2009, 04:41 PM

To CW and K,

Thanks again for being there. And I'm not just saying that because I think you want me to, but because I am appreciative of your concern. You both are strong women who will do well whether with or without your Hs.

knortoh · 10-16-2009, 05:00 PM

FA you're welcome

Corpuswife · 10-16-2009, 05:53 PM

You are welcome. You've been there for me all along this crappy path. I appreciate you support as well.

Feelingalone · 10-16-2009, 06:18 PM

Well CW, do you think I should make that anonymous call? I think I will. Just have to collect a couple of more items to place it.

Also a couple more days evidence and the OM's wife will get a little package.

And maybe, just maybe the head of his company will get an anonymous e-mail with certain information.

It might sound horrible, but he made his bed and he can lie in it. My needs are paramount to his.............

Corpuswife · 10-16-2009, 06:39 PM

I would call her and I'm not sure it should be anonymous. She'll probably figure it out anyway. You might get more info. from her if it's not anonymous. Just a thought.

The job thing....I'd might wait and see if he backs off from your W? Is that your goal...to take away her OM? Or is it revenge? Think about what your goal really is....

Feelingalone · 10-16-2009, 06:46 PM

The anonymous call was in regards to the audit.

To take his time away from her? Disrupt the fantasy with the real world. Not revenge.

wren · 10-17-2009, 10:34 AM

Just thinking of you FA.

Feelingalone · 10-17-2009, 01:07 PM

Thanks Wren, thanks.

Feelingalone · 10-18-2009, 08:13 AM

Well today is my son's 7th birthday. He was with me all day yesterday and last night. Did his birthday yesterday. A little abnormally chilly here, but we enjoyed some time outside. He had a soccer game bright and early and then a baseball game (cancelled due to poor field conditions). But got him to spend time with a friend on soccer team. Went and watched his friends sisters soccer game so they could play.

Then a good 3 hour game of Monopoly with me and grandparents. On to the Japanese steak house. He loves those. The chef was great and he loved it. He caught a piece of zuchinni in his mouth thrown by the chef. Did it up with the cake, singing and picture at the steak house. He loved that. Great picture of him, me and grandparents.

Let him stay up late -- had a fire going. This is what life is truly about.

Corpuswife · 10-18-2009, 10:31 AM

Sounds like a wonderful birthday for any age! Happy Birthday to our boys!!

The 3 hour Monopoly games are truly marathons. My D and I have had to leave the game sitting on the table and continue the next day. She loves the game. We haven't played in awhile...

Feelingalone · 10-18-2009, 11:37 AM

Yes happy birthday to your boy too.

dobo · 10-18-2009, 12:27 PM

I hate monopoly. I always lose.

You're a great dad, FA. My kids love the hibachi places, too.