FA sounds like a lovely birthday
have to laugh though my kids were playing monopoly last night and it ended - (you guessed it) with one of them picking up the board and turning it over!!!!!!!!
we all went to bed shortly afterwards....
Thanks for the compliment. Don't know if it is true, but I try to be, that is all I can do. I coach teams, have him with me on activities we both can do and let him know I love him. Yeah I love Hibachi places too. Unfortunately I tried to be a "great H" too and didn't as well. Hard to do with narcissitic personality on the other side it seems.
K,
It was pretty good, just sad that it wasn't all of us -- ya know what i mean.
Yes I remember those days of how games ended. It usually was something like Risk with us where it would end after hours and days of playing a single game when I was a kid.
Actually my son won - we play putting all fines and payments into the bank in the middle for hitting free parking and he hit the big ones for about 5K.
But more importantly, MOnopoly is really teaching him to count money, get change and know what is going on. Most games teach strategy and such, Monopoly is a good "real world" game.
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I miss the day of being able to dote on my son. He's now running around with a girl and going to the beach. He did invite me (sympathy invite). He will be home at 6pm to open gifts, dinner and cake. He asked me to cook for him his special meal. I think he's having a good day despite his negative attitude prior.
K, glad to here Monopoly is back out. Yes a good nights sleep does wonders. Waiting for another. Having really had one since I was at the beach in July.
CW, yes I imagine it is difficult with older kids in their way as it is with younger children. I get to dote and he wants me too, your son does want it but at his age doesn't want to express it.
Well, it was a good day yesterday with Harrison. Heck today was pretty good on the soccer field. I scored 12 goals. Last week I could of but all went high -- kept leaning back which sends the ball up. With the small goals we play on a miss everytime. I was hammering the ball in -- felt good.
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I'm not a superstar K, just learning. Had a lot of great passes to set me up. Unfortunately Harrison wasn't there today. Doesn't matter I do it for myself, something for me.
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FA that's great - and I am glad to hear that you can acknowledge that you are doing this for yourself - it's hard to start taking that on board isn't it? It's not just NG's who have trouble with that- I know I still do - I have been accostomed to doing things which make my kids and my H happy because that was how I understood happiness ..that was how I understood being a mother and a wife...I too am now working on identifying things that I am doing for myself...
Yes K it is hard to acknowledge. I thought if I gave my all to the relationship that was what was supposed to do. Don't laugh, but we went grocery shopping together, Carowinds together, cleaning together, laundry, you name it everything together. I thought that is the way it should be. I didn't work as much as I would have without her, etc. I lost myself.
Now I realize you have to keep some independence for yourself. But I did all those things because of my love -- I guess that doesn't count for crap.
I know a lot of women who would have loved that -- I guess I just picked the wrong one.
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FA doesn't seem to make a whole lot of sense - you sound like you put in a huge effort and I am one of those women who would have loved it - (don't knwo too many who wouldn't)
I know in earlier days my H was great with all that stuff - and it counts for a huge amount...she has taken your love for granted -
goodness knows what happened in my relationship - my H was always good at continuing to paly baseball - do weights etc...and gradually over time he gave less and less of shopping laundry etc.
yet he says he tried harder than I will ever know?
doesn't seem to be any formula at all for relationships - we blame ourselves for being too good, too bad, too lazy, working too hard...
the more time goes on and the more I hear of others' relationships the more I start to think that what we do has 'nothing' t do with it..people just seem to be on their own trajectories.....
their own issues???
FA: There shouldn't be any remorse in losing yourself in the relationship. There isn't a manual for this stuff. My H was like you in many ways. If I went on a vacation to visit a friend (rare)..he would run around cleaning the house, doing all of the laundry, cooking, mowing the lawn and picking weeds, etc like a wild man. I'd always tell him C...you don't have to do that because I am gone. Having the house picked up was enough. I didn't expect the frantic housekeeping. It was nice but I look back and maybe he felt pressure.
We did most things together..not because we had to but we wanted to and maybe we felt secure together at times. I don't know. His parents are attached at the hip. They are friendly people but they have no close friends in which they do anything with.....no dinners, no outtings. They are very exclusive. His mom has anxiety. It strange how my H has developed that over the last year.
I lost myself "big time" being a SAHM. I'm slowly finding myself. It's hard to be selfish but it's ok.
Geez CW your H and I sound very similar. If she went back home with our son and I couldn't I would clean the house top to bottom, do all the laundry left, etc.
Scary. I guess she doesn't want that. I did not because I had to, just because I could. Did other things as well when they were gone, it is all just planning. But I never felt I had too. Maybe because I was a single person for so long I thought it would be helpful.
Doesn't matter now. I'm done with her. I can tell my demeanor doesn't sit well with her now. I don't even acknowledge her presence at the moment and she knows it. I don't give a rats ass either. To me she's dead, just like in the mafia. She is dead to me. Only Harrison matters to me.
Her , whatever.
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We did most things together..not because we had to but we wanted to and maybe we felt secure together at times. I don't know. His parents are attached at the hip. They are friendly people but they have no close friends in which they do anything with.....no dinners, no outtings. They are very exclusive. His mom has anxiety. It strange how my H has developed that over the last year.
I lost myself "big time" being a SAHM. I'm slowly finding myself. It's hard to be selfish but it's ok.
Corpus what's this anxiety that you are talking about - and what is a SAHM?
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