We're becoming friends going through divorce and possibly afterward!?
I changed the title to "We're becoming friends....!?", because I can't really say we are or will become "good" friends at this point in time.
My W and I (married 22 yrs), are currently going through the divorce process. We want it over with and so do our kids (ages 16 & 18). However, we have also been going through counseling (even though we've been through it a yr before we separated), at our new pastors urging. We talk a lot and agree that we want to be friends for our sakes and the kids whether we get back together or not.
Sure we still argue at times, but ultimately, we've hashed and rehashed the unresolved issues so much that we're both tired of fighting. We want to be civil and talk about other things other than the issues. Therefore, we're agreeing to be friends.
It's sad but true, that you can be friends with one another, but (because of various issues), cannot tolerate living together. That's the way it is with us. At some point it's just time to move on if you have a toxic relationship and can get along better apart, then together.
I'd like to know if there are any other experiences out there similiar to mine?
Last edited by Malibu17; 10-14-2009 at 09:57 AM.
Reason: Title change
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