I am 48, she is 42. Last child graduated 6 weeks ago. 2 weeks ago I asked if there was problems....she wanted to separate. I told her I would leave home because she makes more than me now and can afford the house. I can't pay the bills alone. She was shocked, but accepted because she was planning to basically skip out.
She states not happy, not in love for several years. There was lot of life stress: Over these years I put her through college by working 70 hour weeks and she went to school full time. Yes I was tired and stressed but never complained. Boys had issues in school. Oldest got busted for embezzlement so I spent time helping him get reduced sentence. Had teeth removed for dentures.She had awful medical scare. Overall STRESS. Never any cheating (both agree) BUT she has a female friend for over 5 years and I do believe she has developed an emotional affair with her. This girl complain if she cant see my wife once a week. My wife would rather spend time with her than me.
2 weeks in, I am still at home (apartment not ready until 7/22) We talk, cry, spend time together. Best communication in over 15 years.
She says she is not IN LOVE with me. Does not even want to go on anything like a "date" with me right now. She loves me due to our long history.
We are good friends. We will remain good friends, but I do want my wife back.
I am going to fight for my wife's love. Stupid or not, I still love this lady.
Any advice would greatly be appreciated. I know I am about to take a huge emotional beating, but if she could ever find her love for me again, it would be worth it I believe.
She states not happy, not in love for several years. There was lot of life stress: Over these years I put her through college by working 70 hour weeks and she went to school full time. Yes I was tired and stressed but never complained. Boys had issues in school. Oldest got busted for embezzlement so I spent time helping him get reduced sentence. Had teeth removed for dentures.She had awful medical scare. Overall STRESS. Never any cheating (both agree) BUT she has a female friend for over 5 years and I do believe she has developed an emotional affair with her. This girl complain if she cant see my wife once a week. My wife would rather spend time with her than me.
2 weeks in, I am still at home (apartment not ready until 7/22) We talk, cry, spend time together. Best communication in over 15 years.
She says she is not IN LOVE with me. Does not even want to go on anything like a "date" with me right now. She loves me due to our long history.
We are good friends. We will remain good friends, but I do want my wife back.
I am going to fight for my wife's love. Stupid or not, I still love this lady.
Any advice would greatly be appreciated. I know I am about to take a huge emotional beating, but if she could ever find her love for me again, it would be worth it I believe.