im gonna continue with it. i DO feel good about myself, but a part of me still feels bad for him.
he was truly pissed like i had no right to do anything...funny but sad that he felt that way...HELLO??? whats the meaning of separation? divorce? being single?
he called EARLY this morning, excited that he finally recieved his pic that was taken when he met Sarah Palin...yeah...why did he call me??im glad but...
so twisted...so stinking twisted!
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loving mother and devoted wife, I will endure this pain with the faith, hope and love i have for my family!
It's good to hear Lost. They really have no clue about the NC. They just react to their feelings.
He calls you to tell the details of his life. No shocker. Who else wants to listen to the mundane things of life. Most times, my H calls about the kids he wants to tell me the details.
During my strict NC days, I would say..."oh, sorry I gotta go" as soon as he started telling me what he bought at CVS pharmacy! haha
It's a joke-really it is when you are not semi-conscious like our spouses!
hi everyone! sorry been busy trying to get the christmas shopping done! so sick of pushy people!!!
not much new on the homefront...
h has mentioned he has been thinking of home again...what do i do ? ignore it all until i KNOW he means it and that he truly wants it for the right reasons?? i simply said ...you know how i feel about it. I would much rather see us in marriage counceling,and individual counceling that to be forced into parenting classes and counceling because it is required for divorce...
i just couldnt help myself...my bad,he didnt flip or anything like he usually does. i just couldnt bite hard enough on that one...
its gonna be a crazy rest of the week for me...a lot of visiting in opposite directions for the holiday.
I would TRULY like to thank EACH AND EVERY ONE of my dearest friends on the boards!!! you know who you all are!! I have a certain kind of love for you all! without you, i wouldnt have made it as far as i have! still have a ways to go too!!!
i wish you all Merry Christmas! my prayers are with you all!
A secret of mine is that still at 39, Christmas is my favorite time of the year...this year is different in a way due to the obvious...BUT and thats a really BIG but...im gonna enjoy it with my girls and my husband ...extended family and friends...
im not giving that up for ANY reason!!!
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loving mother and devoted wife, I will endure this pain with the faith, hope and love i have for my family!
This is what I would do...if my H wanted to come home.
I would tell him that he may come home..if he truly wants this marriage and wants to work on it at 100%. Tell him that when he's ready for that....to come to you.
Otherwise, allowing him to come home without a full commitment will lead YOU to further heartbreak.
I think you need to talk about what went wrong and how to stop it from happening again. Counseling is a must. Be careful as you talk to him make sure it is genuine and ready to commit. You can't run your kids again through this. I wish you well. I am gald it is going better for you..
I am not bringing it up to him. He MUST come to me, and then and only then am I willing to entertain the option.
individual counceling for h and then into mc for us both. no other option. He MUST be committed 100%. No way around that.
I am willing to do the holiday with him because of the girls deserving it.
I am NOT willing to be a doormat any more... I will work, compromise and anything else i need to do...ONLY when he can and DOES show me he wants it...the whole kit and kaboodle!
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loving mother and devoted wife, I will endure this pain with the faith, hope and love i have for my family!
Now your talking. You know what you want out of your marriage and not going to settle. That is great.. This is how I feel about mine now. I know what I want to be happy and if I don't get it I will stop giving. She knows this and is willing to work on it. If you guys BOTH learn you will be stronger then ever.. I hope you do..
Well yesterday my husband told me he wanted a divorce. Trying to keep it undercover until we tell the kids. He thinks he will find happiness. It seems that he is always sad especially on the weekends. I am relieved in so many ways but so very sad. The last 6 years have been the hardest after husband had affair. I filed for divorce and then he came around. I should have let him feel alone longer because it seems the same reasons are still unresolved. I am between sad, angry and relief. We have been married 17 years. I do think my husband had problems with depression. Never been willing to go to marriage counseling. He told because he did not want it to work.
Re: threatening divorce? what next?
