Ash22

I have no idea if it did anything to him...mine is a slightly diff from most on here only bc I now live in PA and he still lives in Texas, I know he got served the papers last week and to my knowledge nothing has been done yet (as far as him signing) but I've already signed my part, and yes it was hard but what can I do? I'm not going to sit on my ass and wait, your young also, if she keeps on flip flopping like this you may need to give her a dose of something. But again it is ultimately your call.

nice777guy

BTW Jeep - I'm reading - I just don't have any advice. Just know you aren't alone.

jeepmanw518

Thanks. i'm not giving in to filing for a divorce.

I married a very stubborn woman

if i filed she would prob go with it because she has become unconfrontional.

its starting to get easier everyday to deal without her.

I'm getting a life. went out with friends on friday night and a girl my buddies fiance went to college with (dinner out and Wii bowling drunk was great).

working on my landscaping business by getting ready for plow season. I have drill this weekend and cutting my hair always makes me feel better.

jeepmanw518

another day down.

anyone think i should or shouldn't send my inlaws a christmas card?

should i wait until after i see my wife in a week or so ?

Corpuswife

Send everyone a Christmas card that sounds sensible and caring to me.

Treat your in laws normal.

jeepmanw518

even the wife?

jeepmanw518

I went to family day for the Army today man was that hard.....

I saw lots of happy families some with children and some without..

it has been a rough day!!

Corpuswife

Sorry about the rough day. It's difficult to see everyone happy and together during these times.

Send the card, to your wife, if it makes you feel better. Don't if it's a way to chase her. No mushy or over-the-top cards in this situation. Make it neutral.

jeepmanw518

I picked out a merry christmas card that was pretty generic iw ill send it in a few weeks like the day after I send one to my in-laws.

jeepmanw518

I am on day 20 of no contact. i went to the bank today and closed our joint account. i'm sure she will be upset when she doesn't get her netflix movies in the mail but then again she never asked me to use our money for that.

I wonder if i am doing the wrong thing by hanging on?

she has not tried to call me.

Corpuswife

I don't think you ARE hanging on at all. Doing that no contact thing isn't hanging on..it's giving your wife to settle and think about thinks. Same with you.

I think people give up too easily in marriage. They jump in and out of them quick. Don't rush a divorce yet....give it some time.

jeepmanw518

SO am I wrong to want to break no contact next week in hopes of meeting her for coffee?

the only time she has contacted me was about text messages received by her from my family regarding thanks giving. when she sent these messages she refered to my parents as mom and dad.

am I nuts or was she checking up on me because she hadn't heard from me?

she sent my parents photos of the cabinet my father made for her after her grandmother painted it. she also posted them on facebook commenting that her father in-law built it for her.

Corpuswife

Just remember...if she's interested she will come to you. I would NOT suggest coffee. Once you do, you are chasing her again. It will undo what you've done. Let her wonder what is up. I know it seems like a long time.

This no contact can last months. It is difficult and many jump the gun before the other party is ready.

jeepmanw518

what if she never calls me?

i have not gotten divorce papers in the mail.

jeepmanw518

I'm on day 23 of NC.

spent a long time the night before in the plow truck ugh.

The wife used to hate my long nights and cold feet when i got home so yesterday was hard for me.