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Old 12-11-2009, 08:10 AM   #31 (permalink)
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I say if shes not contactin you then no deffinitly dont contact her at all, i know its hard not to but obviously shes not callin for a reason my w has done the same thing but i am decidin to cut my losses and move on and it sounds like you are tryin that to?

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Old 12-11-2009, 08:36 AM   #32 (permalink)
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I know the NC can be soooo hard. I'm struggling with it myself even though I know my partnership is over, according to my H.

But I encourage you to continue to give her space.
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Old 12-11-2009, 10:03 AM   #33 (permalink)
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This was my idea.

I know that calling her all the time wasn't working so this is something different.

I'm going to call her next week.

If it doesn't go well then I can always go back to No Contact right?
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Old 12-11-2009, 03:20 PM   #34 (permalink)
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Yes but if she rejects you like my w just did 2 me yesterday only
1 of 2 things is gonna happen.1 she gives you the whole cold shoulder shpeel and thats just gonna make you feel worst or maybe the conversation will lead you to finally try to focus on yourself and try to move ahead!

im not saying it can't go well and i really hope it does for you but i say don't call at all!
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Old 12-11-2009, 06:58 PM   #35 (permalink)
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I say...don't try to contact her. Once you do, it's like going back to square one. That just an opinion but that is how I feel. She'll get in contact with you, if she's at all interested.
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Old 12-12-2009, 04:07 PM   #36 (permalink)
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I'm on day 24 of NC.

I have been reading and have now read divorce busting and the divorce remedy.

given the time i have spent i have decided to give my wife what she told me she wanted last month for christmas.

A divorce.
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Old 12-12-2009, 05:38 PM   #37 (permalink)
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dude i didnt contact my wife and guess what i got for this christmas.....found out yesterday it was an affair sooooo contact is no issue now im done regardless, like i said man i know its rough but move on cuz she already has
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Old 12-12-2009, 11:48 PM   #38 (permalink)
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Wish I could be like you two guys and just say okay thats it. Sounds very freeing.
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Old 12-13-2009, 09:04 AM   #39 (permalink)
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I'm just sick of hoping she will come around.. if i let it go i can get on with my life.
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Old 12-13-2009, 08:00 PM   #40 (permalink)
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Jeepman I totally feel you pain. tomm will be two weeks for me and as Ive said before it feels like you never existed in their life. I hope we can all move on but no matter how many books I read or how busy I am my mind always goes back to it. Only time is gonna help that.
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Old 12-14-2009, 09:01 AM   #41 (permalink)
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I changed my mind I'm not giving up on my marriage.

This no contact is for me so that my right.
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Old 12-14-2009, 03:42 PM   #42 (permalink)
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Ur choice but im afraid ur gonna do way more damage to urself than good by holding on, just let go man u might not feel better after 2 morrow but u will in a week or so, try new things man meet new gurls im tellin u thats what ur wifes prolly feelin so quit n move on but ur choice 2 hold on
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Old 12-14-2009, 04:51 PM   #43 (permalink)
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betrayed81

thank you for your input but you are not changing my mind. you may do what you like.

I have been going out doing "stuff" trying to stay busy. i'm still married so i'm not dating other woman.

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Old 12-14-2009, 09:50 PM   #44 (permalink)
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jeepman: Keep up the good work regarding NC! It's easier to chase or get a divorce. It's more difficult to do the NC and wait.

No need to rush on the divorce, if you want to try to save. Exhaust all options. This is one.
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Old 12-15-2009, 07:30 PM   #45 (permalink)
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one more day down. it is getting easier everyday.
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