this forum is great & really helps you to realize you are not alone. I have found it very helpful to hear others stories. Although everyones situation is unique you can see what others have done & what has worked of not worked.
it's also a great place to just vent
I attended "in person" -Divorce care meetings that we affiliated through churches in my area. think the website is DivorceCare: Divorce Recovery Support Groups - each meeting you would watch a video topic ( finiacial, children, dating again, etc) and discuss the topic of the day & anything else someone wanted to talk about.
the more people you can talk with, the more benificial I think. It gives you a greater support system, in case you are not able to reconcile. again - you can hear what others are going thru & learn from their mistakes.
best wishes- hope you & your wife can work things out!!