01-05-2010, 08:45 AM
Join Date: Aug 2007
| | Re: Omg i just found out its an affair
I understand and know the pain you're going through. I went through this myself 3 years ago and it still hurts and it was through gut feelings that I discovered my husband's infidelity so I absolutely believe in trusting your gut instincts. I was married for 29 years to someone I thought was a good man, but even good men can hurt and betray you. I even gave up a loved dream career to marry this man, followed him around the world and supported his career. Legally, I'm still married, but in reality it's more of a civility relationship as I refused to wear my wedding ring since the day of disclosure. I know his selfish act has killed my love for him and I never asked him to stay, he just did. At the time I didn't ask him to leave because I did not want to break up our family of 3 grown sons. I was also scared I may not survive on my own financially. I was in the process of entering nursing training when this happened and now I am almost coming to the end of it. Basically I have put what happened on hold to focus on my training, otherwise I'd have been a very broken and destroyed person and I'm normally very strong. Do what you feel is right and be strong.