12-13-2009, 10:59 PM
Join Date: Dec 2009
| | Heartbroken and numb with grief
My wife and i first started dating back in 2005.
We had a previous relationship in 2003, and i had thought about her every day since, till the day we reconnected.
We recently got married in 2008, the happiest day of my life.
Cutting to now, her half brother died, and understandably, this devastated her.
Her family came in from out of town, and was staying at our house. Her Mom and Dad,older sister with her 2 kids, and younger sister.
Her 2 sisters were fighting because the younger one was trying to discipline the kids, but going about it the wrong way.
Her father can be very hot headed, and a strict man, and had just left when the sisters were fighting.
Anyhow, cutting to the chase, My wife and i were home alone, and i friend of mine that new of my misery at home called to ask how things were going, how i was handleing everything.
So my wife overhears me tell my buddy 3 things, that were supposedly the last straw.
1. kids are bouncing off the walls and theres alot of bs fighting and drama.
2. Im walking on eggshels, and trying to be minimal, because her father is "unstable."
3. They all had been drinking the night before. Her dad especially.
Anyhow, i can hear her starting to curse outloud, saying how that was the last straw.
For the next 4 nights, she doesnt come to bed.
She wont talk to me. I try to ask her whats going on, and all she would say was "i dont want to discuss it now."
It was a totla breakdown of communication for four solid days.
Early Monday morning, she takes her parents back to the airport.
I see her sleeping on the couch on my way to work, and give her a kiss on the check, and tell her "i love you."
Again, for the 4th day in a row, she doesn't say anything.
It was the worse four days of my life.
I call her around noon during lunch.
I tell her over the phone "the last four days, ive never felt further from you in my life. Its been the worse 4 days of my life. Something drastic has to change.
She tells me, dont worry something will change.
On the way home from work, i give her a call, and she says she'll be home in about an hour.
I ask where are you?
She says she doesnt want to talk about it.
She goes on to say, "ok, lets do this over the phone."
She then goes(STILL EDITING. WORKING ON THIS WHEN I CAN, BITS AT A TIME. tOO BE CONTINUED)
what was really going on was she was working on finding a house 30 some miles away from our home and her work.
This was done in secret, she didnt tell me about it till the day her parents left to fly back home.
Last edited by Youfirst; 12-15-2009 at 04:17 PM.