Interesting article thanks for posting it. It gave a name to the differences I see in how I raise my children. I usually say I'm old school but after reading that I'd say my kids are raised with an honor code rather than majority of their peers who are raised in victimhood.
I'd like to hear more about how it is that you think society can unlearn and replace this trend. I honestly don't see it happening.
Adults must lead the way. This means that as adults, we must show our children how to accept verbal aggression and how to best manage our emotions. This entails building our own emotional intelligence. If we argue in front of our children, we are showing them how to hit the emotional buttons of others but also (most importantly) we are showing them how to receive the hurtful words. Children learn what is good and bad, but also learn how they should feel.
I understand where you are coming from about forgiveness. The thing is I believe that many people in relationships do forgive, over and over and over again until they give up. Typically the person they are forgiving has a victim mentality and doesn't take responsibility for themselves, it's never their fault and they expect forgiveness.
You said that verbal aggression is forgivable and a person should be able to move past it and live in the moment. I get that but there are times when the verbal aggression is forgivable but not forgettable. In that moment the person revealed their true thoughts and you gained information that made you reevaluate your choices.
I agree that many instances can't be forgotten. But when that memory does erupt, if it was truly forgiven, it will quickly subside. Sometimes an act that initially was forgiven will cause new pain in the future. The process is the same, it must be forgiven again. Often, individuals will say they forgive out of perceived necessity. Never do this.
To forget, we must sharpen our focus on the present moment. This skill is building mindfulness. It is an incredible skill to master in relationships. Imagine if you were able to react only to the present moment with no concern over the past. It is incredible.
In my relationship, I take forgiveness a step further. I don't even accept my partner's apologies. This is not to hold things against her. It is done to release her from her pain. I am very capable of managing my feelings and do not need her to beg or plead for forgiveness. Being mindful, I can almost instantly move on from any emotional pain that I do feel.