Re: Separate Vacations?
Yes, we sometimes do separate vacations, depending on what's going on.
He might go on a scuba diving vacay without me if the timing doesn't work for me, or I'm not into the location where he's going. I sure as hell don't ever want to go camping, so he's on his own there. I've gone on trips with friends that were too good to pass up, like a trip I took to Dubai when a friend was speaking at a conference. He might go for a long weekend or week to visit some out of state friends because he is their children's godfather. I go and visit my sister or other friends across the country. Either of us might tack on a day or two at the end of a business trip or conference if it is a nice city - sometimes we join each other, sometimes not.
We go on at least 3 full weeks of Caribbean vacations together every year, plus weekends at the summer cottage, so some separate vacations is not a big deal to us. We encourage each other to get the most out of life, and neither of us think there is anything wrong with it. It has worked for us for years and years.
Everyone has different relationship dynamics and what works for one couple might be very wrong for another - I'd laugh and leave if I were with someone who insisted that every single vacation be together. Others are convinced they'd be heading to divorce court and cheating if the other person were out of their sight for a moment...seems to me like a lack of trust, but maybe that's how people roll in marriages. Others would miss their spouses too much. Most people fall in between and some short trips are ok. All of those perspectives are valid.
The most important thing is for a couple to AGREE on their approach to vacations.