Do you and your partner fight over the amount of sex you have? Does one of you want more while the other one does not? If so, read below to learn more about how to solve this bedroom problem. Again!! Vs. Again??
A sexual relationship is an important aspect of a romantic relationship. Fighting about sex can cause problems for many couples. One of the most common cycles couples find themselves in is when one partner wants to increase the frequency of sex while the other is either happy with the current amount of sex or may want less sex. Tips for the Higher Desire Partner
“Why doesn’t my partner want me like I want him/her? Having sex is important to me- why doesn’t he/she get it?”
The more your partner pulls away from you and avoids sexual situations, the more you may feel frustrated or hurt that your partner does not want you as much as you want him or her.
1. Be Understanding.
When you are feeling upset about this problem, try to remember it may not be about you. There may be other reasons your partner is not as interested in sex including physical issues or feelings of inadequacy your partner has about him/herself.
2. Back Off.
As much as you are attracted to your partner or want to initiate sex, try not approaching him or her about the topic for a while. Sometimes the person with lower sexual desire just needs more time to recharge and not feel pressured. Without the added frustration or anxiety about fighting about sex, it may be more likely to happen.
Tips for the Lower Desire Partner
“All my partner wants to do is have sex. There are other ways to be intimate!”
The more your partner pushes you about sex, the more you may avoid any kind of sexual situation with your partner. You may feel hurt that your partner doesn’t think other forms of non-sexual intimacy such as emotional intimacy or physical closeness are not enough.
1. Be Understanding
. Try to get a good sense of why your partner wants to have more sex. Is it because he/she feels emotionally close during sex? Or is it just a natural difference between the two of you.
2. Be Vocal.
If you’re feeling overwhelmed by your partner’s pressures for sex, you may be withdrawing from all sexual intimacy. But there may very well be sexual things you DO want that you’re not getting. So, ask your partner for those things! Your partner will probably welcome your sexual interest, even if it’s not exactly what he/she had in mind. For more information
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