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post #16 of 20 (permalink) Old 02-14-2017, 08:04 AM
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Re: This Valentine’s Day, Give a Gift Only You Can Give

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@john117, it won't kill you to let some grass grow under your feet. Just because Ms. SHIA ATML has a Maine Coon doesn't mean she is the ONE. Get your own cat and take time to smell the roses.
I just love to explore complex multifaceted personalities. I knew she does community theater but found out this month (in honor of Valentine's day?) the play is a very adult themed, racy, etc etc "how did they get away with it" kind of thing... I'm not in any hurry.

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Neither

Just a very good female friend that is in my short list for further, ahem, pursuit.
You're still married and you're scoping out (and buying presents for) potential future lovers?!!! NOT. OKAY.

You're already in an emotional affair if you think of these women as "Ahem, persue-able".

Confess. Grieve. Repent. Heal your wife. Heal yourself. In that order.

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You're still married and you're scoping out (and buying presents for) potential future lovers?!!! NOT. OKAY.

You're already in an emotional affair if you think of these women as "Ahem, persue-able".

Confess. Grieve. Repent. Heal your wife. Heal yourself. In that order.
That's the spirit

I'm painting the media wall book case right now - not a fun task because you must match airsprayed paint texture with a brush - and will be up till 1 am. Meanwhile she's watching CNN and went to sleep at 9:30 pm.

Our Valentine's Day discussion ended in an argument because I have a business trip next week while the wood floor finish guys are here. Never mind the first floor is taped off and I would be at work regardless.

My friend, once your marriage degenerates into this, it doesn't really matter any more. I could be hosting VR orgies at the lab (*) and it still wouldn't matter.

Now, about that calamari... It was awesome. Last time I cooked it at home was in 1996. And the wine...

(*) We have the equipment...
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That's the spirit

I'm painting the media wall book case right now - not a fun task because you must match airsprayed paint texture with a brush - and will be up till 1 am. Meanwhile she's watching CNN and went to sleep at 9:30 pm.

Our Valentine's Day discussion ended in an argument because I have a business trip next week while the wood floor finish guys are here. Never mind the first floor is taped off and I would be at work regardless.

My friend, once your marriage degenerates into this, it doesn't really matter any more. I could be hosting VR orgies at the lab (*) and it still wouldn't matter.

Now, about that calamari... It was awesome. Last time I cooked it at home was in 1996. And the wine...

(*) We have the equipment...

You know yourself from everything that other betrayed spouses have posted here that it DOES matter. I didn't think it would matter to my husband if I left, but I was wrong. Many cheating spouses do not believe their spouse loves or needs them anymore, but they all end up being wrong on D-day when they find out that their decisions have blown their mate apart!

Please, do not flirt with or give gifts to or date or plan to pursue ANYONE until you divorce your wife first. As much as it will hurt you both to divorce, cheating on her will hurt you both a lot worse. Trust me.

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Re: This Valentine’s Day, Give a Gift Only You Can Give

You're using the frame of reference of NormalPeople. That does not apply here I'm afraid.

Morality and ethics have left the building a long time ago. It's easy to ride one's moral high horse when one comes home to a loving and caring partner. It's a lot different otherwise.

The human mind has great inference capabilities. Perhaps she could use those capabilities of hers to ask herself what was her sister thinking when she eloped with her beau (half her age) and her two preteen kids in the back. She should also ask herself what was her sister thinking when driver beau rolled the car causing her death. How important was having a few moments of happiness? Important enough for her to buy the farm I suppose.
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