demora

Hello,

One thing that I guess has me in the dumps a little bit is the fact that another year of my life has come and gone (birthday coming up) and still no babies. In some ways, I have to say this is a good thing. We are going through some difficulties in our relationship right now, but on the flip side, I know that my body is getting older and older. The possibilities of something going wrong if I should get pregnant are increasing.

To add insult to injury, I don't produce eggs, so for me to get pregnant, we will need help. In order for that to happen, they said I have to lose A LOT of weight.

We've talked about adoption, but with my husband's porn problem, I don't think we would pass the home study.

My feelings of wanting a baby keep getting stronger and I hate it when I see all of these babies in the news that are being abused, abandonded and killed. I often wonder what God hates about me so much that He doesn't see me fit to be a mom...but that's when I get really angry about it.

Thanks for adding the spot to vent.

kapjet

Wow! I never understood why people who dont really want kids can push them out and the ones who really want and would do anything for one cant! Its just not fair. However, all is not lost yet. Stop thinking about it and carry on with your life and marriage and work on that for now. Maybe try and lose abit of weight, join a gym or something and feel better about yourself! Maybe start the adoption process so you dont have to wait as long. Who knows maybe when your mind isnt on making babies 24 -7 it may finally happen! Its been known to happen! Your body works in mysterious ways!
Good luck!

draconis

God doesn't hate you and I hope you never feel that way. Sometimes the worst things happen to good people. In the Christian bible look at the Book of Job and his perseverance in suffering. You seem like a great person and maybe the answer is before you and you just don't see it, maybe you'll never know how many people you life has touched.

draconis

demora

It's not that I obess about it so much. I don't have much time to really think about it, and I guess maybe that's part of the reason...maybe I have all I can handle right now. The irony of it is that I placed a baby for adoption when I was young. I was afraid at that time that he would be my first and only child because of my history with my cycles.

Ahhhh well. I have my furry daughters (Shey, a husky and Tidbit a chau/min pin mix) and they have lots of love to give and recieve.

mollyL

Being upbeat and positive, as in sharing a lot of love with your furry friends, is the way to go, that’s for certain. An upbeat attitude will relax and perhaps even help you to conceive; and if not that, then to accept whatever fate has in store for you.

charlenecoetzee

Hi Everyone!
I've just joined this site about 20 min ago! We've also been struggling to conceive for nearly 3 yrs now. But never giving up & still going strong! But I've got a question: I recently heard from friends & family asking if we haven't tried 'The Gift'? I'm from South-Africa and never heard of this before. Does anyone know this ormaybe shead a liitle light on telling me more about 'The Gift', if any such thing excists, please?