12-31-2009, 10:59 AM
Join Date: Apr 2008
Location: Southern USA
| | Re: Healing Process
Okay, I've now read the other thread. I still do not know which country you are from (or which religion). I do sense you and your husband do not share the same values. And that's a huge problem! Basically, he did apologize to you. However, that was only after others put pressure on him. The apology did not come from his heart. Futhermore, you do not trust him. It is now up to him to EARN your trust. I just don't see him going in that direction. Did he also commit adultery? Your other post seems to indicate that. From a religious standpoint, that would give you a way out of the marriage.
I hate to appear negative here, but I just don't see things improving. It takes two committed people to have a happy and thriving marriage. And if "he isn't helping", you don't have two committed people. Unfortunately it took 20 plus years in a marriage for me to learn that lesson.
Wish you the very best in 2010!