02-01-2010, 08:48 PM
Join Date: Apr 2009
Location: SE Wisconsin
| | Re: Irritated Guy
You became engaged 3 months into the relationship. You cannot possibly know someone well enough to love them for who they are in 3 months--even if you are together 24/7, you haven't seen enough of him--nor he of you--in different situations to know if you love each other or if you are in love with being wanted, in love with what you THINK the other person is, in love with something OTHER than the real person.
How can you love someone who doesn't even want you around for several days in a row and it's STILL the "newlywed" phase? How can you feel good about yourself when you are so miserable without him? Please, these are all signs that you are very insecure, and those of us who have been there recognize them. Get counseling for yourself--not as part of deciding whether or not to leave him; that's irrelevant--the question is, why are you so needy? In the long run, that will be the primary source of your unhappiness. If you are happy with yourself, you'll have just as much fun without him as with him--and his role in your life is a choice for you, not an essential. Good luck.