02-08-2010, 10:00 AM
Join Date: Sep 2009
| | Re: How does my marriage survive this??
When you think of him telling you that he doesn't remember sleeping with her, would you rather him tell you "Oh yeah, she's the best I ever had" or would you rather him just say he doesn't remember but he must have since the DNA test came back positive?
I have a step daughter. Granted, I knew about her since the day my H and I met, but it doesn't take anything away from me and the kids we have together. It honestly makes me realize how special I am that I wasn't just a one night stand, that he WANTED to build a life with me and have children. Him having another child won't take anything away from you or any children you two have together.
I can see that the financial part is really concerning you, but realize how much worse it could be. Its not like he has a new kid popping out of the woodworks every week. ( trust me, I have known a few that have). Sit down and talk it out, and know that you have this chance to truly show your husband that you love him NO MATTER WHAT.