I feel like my husband is being inconsiderate at times, but when I finally said something, he turned it around on me. Example...last night we were at Target, had stopped there on the way home from dinner so that he could look for a game. We were heading to the checkout and I said "woah, I really have to go to the bathroom, I drank so much water!" I thought we would check out and be home in five minutes, we live three blocks from there, so why use their bathroom when I could use mine? We had trouble with the checkout because they wouldn't price match his game, and he was upset. So we get in the car finally and I'm bouncing a little, just really dying to pee. We literally live two minutes away. He's driving, since we're in his car. So, he takes out his phone and gets on twitter and proceeds to compose a tweet to Target about his experience. I'm dying...it takes him several minutes. Then he says "Ok, I feel better now that I got my angry tweet out." and he starts the car. I say "Great." He says "What's your problem?" I say "Well, I have to pee really bad and it's a little inconsiderate of you to sit here and make me wait, instead of tweeting when we got home." He got all defensive and says "It's inconsiderate that I can only do things when all of your conditions are met." We sat in silence for a minute as he was driving and I said "you know, I was sitting quietly and just letting you do your thing, even though I was in pain, but if you're going to call me out, then I'm going to speak up and tell you how I feel." He said "you weren't sitting quietly, you were making noise."
Really? Is it wrong of me to think he's kind of being a jerk? I really feel like he's blindly inconsiderate. And instead of working at it, he throws it back to me like I'm trying to be queen of the world and make him cater to my whims. It's so saddening, and depressing. He does things like this all the time. Tells me he'll pick me up from work for dinner last night and I wait outside for over 15 minutes in the heat because he said he was on his way, but really wasn't. Everything is on HIS time, HIS schedule, and when I speak up, I'M the jerk. What do I do? I'm always met with defensiveness when I bring anything up, he acts like a kid who refuses to admit anything.