i've been married a year known him 2 years and i've reached to the point that i would like a divorce after only a year is this normal for a woman whose tired of arguing and doesn't bother with him anymore. Too all the ladies out there is there any advice you can give on how a woman can try to make a marriage work when there is hardly any love there.
i've been married a year known him 2 years and i've reached to the point that i would like a divorce after only a year is this normal for a woman whose tired of arguing and doesn't bother with him anymore. Too all the ladies out there is there any advice you can give on how a woman can try to make a marriage work when there is hardly any love there.
What is more important to you? Being married, or being loved?
Don't waste your time if there is no love. At least do not decide to get pregnant right now. Things will get worse.
i wanted a divorce after being married a year. there was no love there.
but after three years, things have changed. sometimes its not that love isnt there, its that there are two highly emotionally dysfunctional people trying to understand how to get what they want. its complicated. you dont always get what you want right off the bat. its a work in progress.
What are you constantly arguing about? Do you feel EVERYTHING is his fault, or can you reasonably see/admit that there is fault on both sides?
Does he feel EVERYTHING is your fault, or can he see that he is also to blame for some of the problems/ arguing?
If you both are willing to commit to better understanding the others needs & desires , commit to communication that is not Biting to the other but simply expressing how what he does - makes you FEEL or the hurt it causes - instead of angry accusing Blame, and vice versa, If you find you have enough of the same goals in life, You can probably save this marraige but if one is totally selfish and refuses to see they have contributed to anything that has led to this place, it may be like chasing after the wind.
What do you really want ? What does he really want?
i don't think you can make it work if there's no love and if the other person is not interested in making an effort to save the marriage...
The thing is that he says he love me and wants the marriage to work but i just dont see it from him i mean its one thing saying it but another showing it. Some help around the house or with our child is not to much to ask for is it? Marriage is confusing!!!!
What is more important to you? Being married, or being loved?
Don't waste your time if there is no love. At least do not decide to get pregnant right now. Things will get worse.
I dont want anymore kids with him trust me i was stupid to think that when we had a child things would change i got pregnant brfore i got married and due to this i had to get married its an asian thing. but i regret it. Personally being loved is more important i dont see how anyone would want to be married if either person does not feel loved.
i wanted a divorce after being married a year. there was no love there.
but after three years, things have changed. sometimes its not that love isnt there, its that there are two highly emotionally dysfunctional people trying to understand how to get what they want. its complicated. you dont always get what you want right off the bat. its a work in progress.
I could understand if people get married because they have to the way i did then yh it is hard to hit things off str8 away but if you think your in love and you understand things about each other then i dont understand how problems get there. if it was just arguments then i could understand that maybe people do get thriugh it but its also ended up with physical violence where i hav had to call police can anyone get along with their partners if there is fear there.
but its also ended up with physical violence where i hav had to call police can anyone get along with their partners if there is fear there.
OMG and after all that you're still complaining that he doesn't help with the house?? What's more important to you, being beaten up and living in fear or a violent husband not doing the dishes? Especially if it got as far as calling the cops!
OMG and after all that you're still complaining that he doesn't help with the house?? What's more important to you, being beaten up and living in fear or a violent husband not doing the dishes? Especially if it got as far as calling the cops!
i know its not an excuse but people get beaten by their partners every1 i count myself a lil lucky that it aint everyday i know its stupid but thats y its got to the point where i am thinkin about divorce becus though its taken some time i have realised its not fair on me or to my son.
Children bring another element to a relationship and it can take a while to find the new structure to the relationship. Love is another thing that can get lost when children come into a marriage. Have a big rest and really think about what would make your life easier, it may not be what you think.
Arguing all the time and begging for help around the house and with your son is no way to live. More importantly, it's unacceptable for him to EVER hit you, push you, or abuse you in any other way. You should not have to live in fear, and neither should your son. If you aren't strong enough to leave for yourself, please do it for your son. Do not make him grow up in fear, with his parents arguing and worrying that this time his dad will kill his mom.
On a personal note, my parents got divorced because my dad punched my mom. One time. And I'm glad they did because they would have fought all the time.
On a personal note, my parents got divorced because my dad punched my mom. One time. And I'm glad they did because they would have fought all the time.
Depends.
I remember when I was a little girl my father hit my mother once, but he never hit her again. He knew that what he did was a big mistake. My father is very quite person, and I still can't believe that he hit her. He was never violent with us verbally and physically. My mom forgave him, and she always said to us that you have to be proud of him. He is a good father, and a good husband too.
We all make mistake in life, and everybody deserves a new chance.
Depends.
I remember when I was a little girl my father hit my mother once, but he never hit her again. He knew that what he did was a big mistake. My father is very quite person, and I still can't believe that he hit her. He was never violent with us verbally and physically. My mom forgave him, and she always said to us that you have to be proud of him. He is a good father, and a good husband too.
We all make mistake in life, and everybody deserves a new chance.
hitting once ok MAYBE it could be forgiven but beating up occasionally is something i could never forgive.
marriage failed 
